I believe you CAN hear all those nuances, we only have to be willing to listen, but even when we don’t really listen, we still hear them and we involuntarily react/respond accordingly.
Unfortunately, we don’t always deal with smart people. More often than not, I find myself facing the opposite kind, which is when I walk away (provided that I can). Anyway, I’m at an age (48) and in a position where I can afford to pick the people and situations that I like. There is really no point for me in wasting my time and sanity just for the sake of being liked no matter what. I wish I had learned it earlier in my life.
Nice to meet you!