To be interesting, be interested.

Afsah Kanwal
Jul 28, 2017 · 3 min read

Interested challenge

Once I took a trip to a salon for to take my new fresh haircut. It was the same salon where i used to go. And it ended up with a journey towards new friendship.

But at that day hairstylist was not there.A new lady welcome me and inquired about what service i want. I questioned her about the absent one and refused to take haircut from new lady. As time passed, we started a formal conversation and finally she convinced me to take a haircut from her. And assured me to satisfy with her service.

she asked me questions about myself , from where i belong ,what i am doing, about my education in a very friendly mood as she had a interest of knowing about me .Then in return i asked some question about her from where she took this skill because she was doing very well. Then she told , she often visited abroad for taking classes and learning techniques for new haircuts on different type of faces. It was quite fascinating to me because i also have a least interest in being hairstylist.

With time our conversation goes totally in a friendly zone ,we started talking about this field ,about techniques. She asked about feedback how to improve our service and what kind of service we are providing, is it comfortable or not .

I was under the impression of this traditional business.We spoke lot about this concept of traditional businesses taking feedback and having personality. The whole conversation went on for quite some time and was genuinely fascinating.

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” — Dale Carnegie

The quote from the start of the article is from How To Win Friends and Influence People, so true it is

I experienced this by reaching to almost 10 friends and asked about what going in their life ,about their further interest and some formal chit chat. The answers were quite fascinating and vary from person to person and its natural.Some conversation very impressive and motivated. I never had this type of experience of interacting with other in this way but i was quite interesting of knowing what is going in other life or what is the way of other of taking their life. Before this i am that type of person who never gave a chance to other to speak about their interest but after this experience i was amazed that i had a power of listening other.

After that I figured out there is always something new about other , you came to know how other people life is going? One thing which i would like to add, to built a stronger relation with somebody you need to be “ genuine” not the fake one.Being genuine with other open up the way of opportunities, people start liking you and allow other to know about you.

After reading the only 1st chapter of this book i understand the very first principle of capturing other “ Become genuinely interested in other people”

But this principle will only work when they comes from the heart.

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