CAPACITY II
In the previous post, I submitted the error of delving into the marital sea without the patient development of capacity of swimming through its tides.
It later occurred to me in the form of a question that aren’t the normal tortuous circuits of living already unconsciously building the capacity needed to be a successful lover? You must have thought so too? I disagree though. In the center of our nature is the selfcentered spirit. All our tribulations, if not reconstructed to serve as a dome of self-righteousness, are used to consolidate our survival on earth. Most people do not get married because they want to be spent in love. They get married to continue the parasitic ministry of the selfish spirit - using their partner to fulfill their selfish desires.
If you want to take a honest self inventory of your self in this matter, draft the inquiry this way "Do I have the capacity to hold and nurture Life?" Life. Life.
I wish that humanity will discover that the most useful capacity to be developed is the one that betters Life. Love should not be an avenue ONLY as the playground of feelings and whatever nowadays is defined as emotions. Love should not be the ministry of embezzling, double crossing, deceiving, and siphoning as it is common today with those who are concerned with what they can get out of a relationship and not what they can give.
The purpose of Life is not just to live.
The purpose of Life is to find what it means to be Alive. On that journey, all should be encouraged to build the capacity not for the selfish storage of wealth or weapons, money or machinations, but for Life. In other words, our lives should be spent to be Life-Carriers and Life Givers. The sphere of Love, thus, becomes the avenue to exchange Life and Life alone.
The Healing for our souls and bodies shouldn’t be too far away from us if we know what Love is. If Life has been lived aright, healing should just be as easy as touching one another. Aren’t you called Human Being? What are the deposits in that 'ing’. Relationships should be the place where our Beings come to full expression, where the depository of every good things we have learnt before that time finds full expression not only to the immediate lover but to everything else.
Imagine every love affair between lovers as a kind of vase where Life is incensed and perfumed, influencing the aether. The failure in the present terrain of relationships in our time is because almost everyone is unconcerned with sacrificing themselves on the altar of love. Relationships have provided a canopy for parasites disguised in the garbs of Romeos and Juliets.
How can you start cultivating this capacity?
Like all things, it starts with the implantation of a notion. A seed-thought that seeks and sees love for and as the OTHER to be fully alive.
