I am one of thousands of parents doing the kid-transport as a disabled adult. So your able-bodied experience raising 3 kids in a city does not compare. I use a wheelchair out of the house. I can stand up long enough to load/unload a kid from a 5 point harness. By the by, the straps of those 5-point harnesses come in contact with the infant/child directly (and close to their faces) and would NOT be protected by your “shower cap” cover, and are required in Ohio up to age 4 and 40lbs. As for suburb, yes, I do — but I live in the most densely populated municipality between NYC and at least Chicago (Lakewood, Ohio — look it up). I can’t use the sidewalks, they aren’t maintained well enough (and it’s not just the residential ones that are the problem). The front wheels of my wheelchair catch on them. Even when they are passably smooth, they are often clogged with people lingering having conversations that make it so I can not get around them in my wheelchair. This is why visiting NYC (where familiy members on my husband’s side live — he grew up there) is a RING OF HELL to me even when I don’t need to rely on a gasoline-fueled vehicle to get around. Drunk people pee in the elevators, lots of people mindlessly block curb cuts — many with earbuds in place so they can’t hear me asking them politely to move, and on and on and on. Also, getting around in bad weather when one is mobility impaired and/or hauling one or more small children along (I have five, ages 3 months to 12 years — and we get more butt-miles-per-gallon than a Prius driver riding solo, thankyouverymuch). My family DOES walk, when it’s feasible based upon the physical abilities and climate.
Your massive priviledge is STILL showing, though, that you try to shut down and “poo poo” a voice of experience different from yours who illustrates one way that your bright shining future is extremely dystopian to some of us already experiencing oppression. I, as a sociologist and disabled adult, do NOT share your rosey projections. I see massive opportunities to further the divide between multiple types of “haves” and the “have-nots” and zero trust (as someone who is currently working on getting better access to public needs — the nearby elementary school has too few curb cuts and my poling place is going to be a safety hazard this November 8 if it’s not moved, based upon how bad it was in the lower turnout elections in the last 2 years when it was temporarily relocated). I have intimate, lived knowledge of this issue that you — hopefully- will never acquire. Many people with similar challenges to mine do not feel as empowered to speak up because they feel shame about their limitations. Many more are not yet a part of the disabled population, but will be in years to come for various reasons (and same is true of not-currently-caregivers to the very young or disabled). Do you really want to ignore and silence these parts of the population? Are these subgroups not already experiencing enough instances of being ignored by the more powerful?