Fighting The Fear To Unleash Your Big Scary Dream Monster
Ok … so this isn’t some fetish type shit so don’t get too excited.
This is about you getting to a point in your life where you realise you’ve been playing too small … and you’re READY to unleash your big scary monster!!
So let me guess.
You bought into the story that you’re not enough … and that you can’t inconvenience other people by actually thinking that you are. So it’s better just to, you know, never change into something amazing so you don’t make them uncomfortable.
Or even more importantly, achieve your life goals.
Yeah?
Well this week has been uber profound for me over my own bs story about this.
I realised I was playing too small … and that it was time to throw on those big frilly girly pants … and have at it like a Derby Girl on crack.
In other words, I’d been cheapening 10 years worth of skills & experience as a Life Transformation Coach into $24 products.
And as a result of whoring myself out, I snapped BIG TIME. I even posted a video showing my meltdown (then took it down out of slight shaming from family but smugly smiling that I did what I needed to do to get out of this haze of self pity).
I mean I knew I was playing too small LOGICALLY. But deep down I needed that AHA moment to kick me so hard in the butt that I actually moved to do something about it (I’d been expecting it).
So I did.
But not without resistance.
Oh no.
This week has been the fight of my life against my needy, co-dependant, whingy, whiny ‘Sally’.
She’s been a clinger for as long as I remember. That sooky lala who nags at you when you want to do something different.
Like flirt with the boys at the arcade, when she’d rather sit around and braid your hair. *add sarcastic tone
Anyway, enough fucking metaphors … even I’m losing my way here.
So Sally’s your little ‘let’s be safe and don’t do anything to rock the boat’ voice.
She’s the ‘you can’t do that, people won’t like it’ and the ‘what are we gonna do if it goes wrong’ voice.
But underneath all that care & concern, Sally’s manipulative.
She plays you like she cares … but what she’s REALLY doing is keeping you stuck in the box you came in with the little wire still wrapped around you to keep you in place.
And then when family or friends pipe up with their own opinions, our mate Sal is standing there nodding her head in agreement with them.
So unless you’re a halfwit (which I’m sure you aren’t), you’ve figured out that Sally is YOU arguing with yourself and keeping you small.
*It’s much more fun to see that part of yourself as another person. Because when you kill them, you won’t go to prison.
Ok I’m Done With Schoolyard Metaphors … Here’s Some Real Talk For You
I’ve been sitting on my hands for a year in business purgatory trying to figure out what I’m doing, who I’m helping, why I’m doing it and how to achieve wealth from it.
Last March I sold everything I own, went to the US with the intention of mixing with ‘industry’ types (a pick up artist) … & then shuffled over the border into Mexico when I realised that the cost of a meal in the US was equivalent to a small home loan in Australia.
And in the last 12 months I’ve successfully gotten by with house sitting in Mexico, Guatemala & Costa Rica.
It’s been EPIC!
But in terms of the REAL work that needed to be done (like generate an income that didn’t have me living on rice & beans every 3 weeks) … I was hiding.
Bad.
In hindsight it was because I’d outgrown my business (I was date coaching men but was newly single & no longer dating myself) … yet despite that, I wasn’t doing the right work at the time to make the change I needed to improve my financial situation.
I was doing stuff sure. But I was in neutral ... not full throttle. Letting my self talk get in the way of just doing the damn work.
And THIS is such a huge problem with people … a lot of the people.
Where inertia and a distinct lack of motivation stops you from getting into the grunt work ... to get the thing you so desperately want.
It’s like when you played sport as a kid & some days you couldn’t be fucked to try … but then you got this burst and blitzed the other team.
Fighting Sally & Her Inertia Disease
So tell me, do you have some big arse dream that you want to eat and sleep in the middle of … but … you’re nowhere near it because you’re paralysed?
Do you use words like ‘maybe’ and ‘someday’ and ‘I wish’ and ‘that’d be nice’?
And do you talk about this thing, maybe you’ve even downloaded an eBook (go you) or you tried to ‘Law of Attraction’ it in your head … but that’s it?
Let’s be frank here (‘hi Frank’).
When you use language like ‘maybe’ & ‘someday’, you’re no closer to getting to your dream than you are of your funeral.
When you THINK it, but don’t actually DO it … then you ain’t gettin’ squat baby.
I’m serious!
You might as well book your hearse if all you wanna do is sit in your ‘dreamy inertia’ buying into your own ‘Sally’ bullshit about how hard/impossible/pie in the sky it really is.
Your Thoughts, Feelings & Actions Dictate Your LIFE!
Do you get that?
I mean REALLY get that?
Not just nod your head because it rolled up in Arial Black over the top of a picture of a shitty waterfall on your Facebook Newsfeed?
Because this is the thing.
If you’re in denial of the TRUTH about what it takes to REALLY achieve your big arse dream … then you’re not igniting your subconscious.
You’re not engaging your emotions or your body to FEEL the thing you want.
So you can think all you like about the thing you want. But if you keep sabotaging it with ‘Sally’ …
and if you ain’t feeling it (and I mean REALLY feeling it) …
and if you’re not doing anything about it …
Then you’re not getting it.
It’s the most simple equation to success;
THINK
FEEL
ACT
Rinse & repeat every damn day of your life.
Why There Is Such A Thing As The 1%
You really wanna know?
Well let’s be clear first … I’m definitely NOT in the 1% right at this moment.
But the difference between the ‘havers’ and ‘don’t havers’ is ACTION.
I went to a Tony Robbins seminar a few years back — and as this mountainous man stood in front of me screaming at a crowd of 3000, I thought to myself, ‘there’s nothing between me and him, other than what I believe and what he believes’
It was truly a profound moment.
And while it’s taken me a few good years afterwards to get CLEAR about what I wanted in my life, I’m on the way (to MY version of the 1%).
This is what I chose. So this is what I’m living right now at a level of success I bestowed upon myself 18 months ago.
And there’s NOTHING between you and me other than our beliefs.
So what are you waiting for?
Get out here & play! The world is waiting.
Ainsley M
Life Transformation Coach
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