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It’s been a difficult past few days, to say the least. On top of a global pandemic shaking up our lives, again, we’re reminded of how insignificant we as Black people seem to be. Police brutality and racism, continue to plague our communities. Couple that with the microaggressions we face each day and having to show up despite it all. It’s draining.

Now, being Black isn’t draining, but the world around us can be. So, it’s important we reclaim our mental health, our spirit, in these difficult times.

Black pain isn’t all our story entails.

When I first began to incorporate mental health into the content for AishaBeau.com, I felt strongly about approaching it in a way that is uplifting. And despite just how dark things have been, we must allow ourselves to find moments of joy. …


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A few weeks ago, I was completely burnt out by the number of video chat sessions I had back to back. Given the requirement to socially distance at home, it’s been nice to build deeper connections. But I underestimated just how much I was able to handle. And quickly learned that I needed to cool it and set some boundaries.

You see, the difference is that with a video chat session you’re essentially inviting the person into your home. Your personal space. Unlike when we go out and meet up, we have the opportunity to go home and recharge afterward. We can anticipate getting together. …


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The news and details surrounding Covid-19 have led to a number of offices and schools closing this past week. And for many, it’s the first time you’ve had to work from home for an extended amount of time.

At first, it may be exciting to not have to go in, but can quickly become intimidating given the number of distractions and the shake-up to your normal routine. I’ve been doing it now for 2-years as an entrepreneur and can attest to the fact that it’s certainly an adjustment, but maintaining productivity is possible. …


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I’ve said this numerous times to those closest to me, and I’ve even made mention of it on social media: 2020 is the year I finally get my finances all the way together. For years, I’ve struggled with money, no matter how much I was making. I either didn’t feel I had enough of it, or, when I was finally getting paid well, didn’t know how to manage it.

It wasn’t until I left my highest paying job to pursue entrepreneurship that I finally decided to take a deeper dive into my financial habits. Mainly because of the fact that I was dead broke (ha!), …


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For a lot of us, access to our creativity ends once art is no longer a required course in order to graduate. We hang up the markers, colored pencils, watercolor paints, and convince ourselves we’re “not very artistic,” when that actually isn’t a requirement for this form of self-expression. Studies show that the levels of cortisol, a stress-related hormone, drastically drop when we spend time making art. Artistic or not, we all deal with stress. So maybe it’s time we explore the avenue of arts and crafts as a form of self-care.

Art therapy is a long-standing mental health practice using art materials and creative expression to treat those who experience anxiety, depression, social difficulties, or medical ailments. By creating art, no matter the skill level, we engage our mind, body, and spirit in a way that is restorative and comes with a host of benefits. Practicing art therapy helps to reduce stress and anxiety, while also increasing self-esteem. …


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Often times when we discuss curbing one’s comparison, it’s usually in reference to our relationship or perception of others. Rarely do we look at the form of comparison that quite often weighs on us the most. Our tendency to compare ourselves to our “ideal self”.

This often manifests as a comparison to who you or others believe you “should” be, or clinging to the idea of who you used to be. Both of which can leave us feeling inadequate.

When we compare ourselves to who we believe we “should” be, nothing we ever do feels good enough. We’re in a constant state of lack. Blaming our shortcomings on the fact that we aren’t who we should have been, doing what we should have done, look the way society tells us is acceptable and so forth. …


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I’m going to begin this post by saying, who you are, who you are at your core does not need fixing. The layers, the personas, piled on top of that core self, can often blur our vision of who we truly are. Especially, if we’ve had to play a role or put up a guard for many years. And when it comes to getting to the root of self-care, which is self-love, it isn’t about fixing who we are, but instead, peeling back the layers to reveal our authenticity, our essence.

As children, we are born loving ourselves wholly. And for some of us, this sense of love, self-confidence, awareness is clouded by our need to protect ourselves or to fit in. Instead, we love ourselves when the outside world deems it appropriate to do so. We go on living to meet *that* standard, never truly uncovering or embracing our own. …


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The holidays are a joyous time, they allow us to catch up with loved ones, take time off from work, give and receive gifts. But with all the festivities surrounding them, our normal patterns are often thrown off whack. We’re sleeping less, eating and drinking more, undergoing more stress than normal-sometimes financially and personally. And by the end of it all, we feel burnt out. Leaving our immune systems feeling shut down, which isn’t so great as we enter the true winter months.

I’m speaking from experience here because I have literally been on the go for the past several weeks, and am currently on my last leg. Along with some strong medicine, what I truly need right now is rest and to get back to my normal sleep routine. …


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It’s often drilled into our heads that we have to be great at everything we do. Sounds like a lot of pressure, right? Well, what if the key wasn’t in being great but simply showing up-all the time, over and over?

Lasting progress isn’t about being consistently great; it’s about being great at being consistent. That means, instead of focusing on doing things perfectly, you simply focus on just the doing and getting better as you progress. When we focus on being consistent, we give ourselves more of an opportunity for greatness.

We’re constantly seeing others online who are seemingly achieving greatness overnight. Leaving us feeling stuck. But what if I told you that the true power is in the process? …


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’Tis the season to work smarter, not harder. With the sun setting at practically 4 pm each day here on the northeast, working into the evening can feel like pulling an all-nighter. Yet, with the dreary weather and holidays in full swing, this time of year is the hardest to stay on track. Leaving us less productive and sitting at our desks longer than we’d anticipated.

Over the summer I got my hands on a notebook from Shine that has the phrase “Go Big and Go Home” written on the cover. Never have truer words been shared. Often times we feel the need to sit on the clock to make face, despite our better judgment. …

About

Aisha Beau

Writer, Blogger + Speaker covering all things Self-Care. I recently launched a podcast, Re-Written, listen to it here: http://aishabeau.com/podcast/

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