I don’t assume women lead fairytale lives. You are again completely obfuscating the point which is that women start at a place where they already own what men are trying to buy their way into.
A 16-year-old high school dropout female can pop out three kids and have an instant happy family by the time she is 20. Or she can wait until she is 30. Same difference. Men have zero such family-making opportunities.
Of course it isn’t idellic. But it is FUNCTIONAL. Men have no functional way to lead self-directed family lives. They are entirely dependent on women. That isn’t functional. It puts men in the position of frequently being the victims of legal kidnapping and extortion