We Regret to Inform You…
I sent out my first regret email today. In fact a few minutes ago. I have always been on the receiving end of regret letters, so I know just how crushing it feels to receive one, especially when you really wanted the opportunity. Even though I am a HR person, sending out regrets was not something I actively considered as part of my job, and indeed it wasn’t until my recent role in Recruitment. It’s a tough one because you try to imagine what will go through the person’s mind as they read your note, how badly they may have wanted the job, or how hopeful they were about getting it. Whatever the case, and however nicely you try to word it, rejections are not easy.
Brings me to my point. Even though rejections are not easy, they are necessary. I remember listening to a sermon a while ago by Ravi Zacharias (You should totally check him out) and he was explaining the reason for the existence of pain. He explains that pain is a very useful part of our existence as it is a powerful indicator. When something goes wrong with our bodies, it is through pain that we are able to many times detect. I think I’ll apply the same analogy to receiving rejections. I apply to so many things, that every year, I get a good handful of rejection notes. The truth is though that I would be a serious confused mess if I got offered every opportunity. The scariest part is, some opportunities I pursued would not have happened if I wasn’t rejected from something else.
All this to say, I am growing in my ability to take rejection and I think it’s a good thing. Rejection feels bad for the person handing it out too. Finally, don’t see rejection as the end of the world because it can be the start of something good. Maybe, even better.