My Husband and I Decided to Try Swinging, and It Changed Our Lives

Alain Saamego
3 min readMay 18, 2023
Photo by Dainis Graveris on Unsplash

My husband and I had been married for nearly two decades. We had a loving and passionate relationship one full of laughter, respect and appreciation.

We had built a life together, complete with two wonderful children, a beautiful house and fulfilling careers. We were the envy of our friends and family, and we had become comfortable in the routine of our lives.

But despite all of the love and happiness, something was missing. We wanted to explore our sexuality and deepen our connection in a meaningful way that was both safe and exciting.

So, after much discussion and contemplation, we decided to try swinging.

At first, the idea of swinging was terrifying. We had no idea what to expect and were worried that we would make a mistake or be judged by our peers.

We had heard horror stories of couples whose marriages had been ruined by swinging, and we were afraid that we would end up in the same situation.

The first time we went to a swingers’ club, we were nervous and excited. We had spent the afternoon preparing ourselves, mentally and physically, and we were ready to explore.

We quickly found out that the swingers’ community was warm and welcoming and full of people who were eager to…

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