Sorry for the late response! Been swamped with work.
Wow. This was infuriating but also enlightening. Infuriating because it’s a shame you had to write it. Enlightening because I am glad you wrote it.
Essays like this, contributions to a conversation such as this one should never go away, even if, by some miraculous stroke of good fortune, rape and rape culture were eradicated completely. It is important to make this KNOWN, always, as a reminder to society that a human’s right to agency and autonomy should nrver be trifled with.