You Are All Cordially Invited To My Degree Burning Ceremony

This was technically supposed to be my 5th Medium post. Oh well. As I was posting, I found a whole slew of posts I missed from my 1st blog post. I was trying to honor where I started and whoops. In order to clearly understand, it’s best to read these in this order. It’s almost like reading chapter 4 then jumping to 15 lol. More in likely another mistake will happen. I even tried waking up at 4 am to play catch up haha. You might be reading a few of these posts twice. I used to like college, but after a few experiences I don’t. It’s ultimately up to you if you decide to go to college or not. To date, I have not used much of any degree knowledge in my entrepreneurial ventures, music career or acting career. I acquired new skills from the people actually doing it. Everyone and their momma stressed how important it was growing up, and now I know I was told a lie.

Before you read this, know that I tell a story within a story, but I think you will get the general idea. I spent the whole month of July starting on July 11ish writing this. I put a lot of thought into this. Also, there are times when I enter different subjects and I’m sure in certain area some paragraphs would’ve flowed better if I put them together. It might appear I hop around talking about one thing then going to the other. I admit to a few repeated lines. Why? Simple. 1. I didn’t want to forget anything and I wanted to write them down before my brain lost it. 2. I want to get the point across. If you make it to the end, you rock hardcore. It’s a longer post but a post I can honestly say I’m staying true to myself.

After reading this article:
http://topinfopost.com/2014/05/22/angry-graduate-letter

And this article:
http://m.tickld.com/x/professor-responds-to-angry-graduate

I’ve been thinking quite a bit lately.

Ok here’s my background story. Right before my first semester of college, I used to be one of these enthusiastic “omg I love college” type person. I see incoming freshman and I think it’s so cute how excited they are for the next phase in their life. I’m not going to tell them my story and ruin it for them. If they are thrilled about college, who in the hell am I to ruin it for them? I hope they can keep this enthusiasm throughout.

After my first semester of college, I realized quickly that an degree doesn’t guarantee you a job; and just because you have a degree doesn’t entitle you to anything. I feel for the alumni, and the letter written makes good points in the letter. On the other hand, after reading the comments and the response, he really misses the whole point: going to college doesn’t mean stability. Having a degree doesn’t guarantee you a job. Some of the comments hit it on the head. Go learn a skill. Checkout profoundly disconnected.

Here’s the thing. I notice how we are all taught to be so robotic: go to grade school, go to high school, go to college, get a degree, get a 9 to 5 job. What if you want more than a 9 to 5 job? After hanging around people of wealth lately, it really changes your way of thinking. It forces you to see things from a different perspective. Seriously. You can’t build wealth working for other people (maybe a stock broker?) A lot of people don’t understand that I don’t want to report to someone else, that I want to pick when and how often I go on vacations, and a 9 to 5 doesn’t have that type of flexibility. It’s been taught all my life that working a regular job is the only form of stability. If it makes you happy working a 9 to 5er, go for it. Do what makes you happy. But don’t knock me because I want to take the road less traveled. I notice several people try to make me feel like a weirdo because I’m finding ways to make money without my degree. I love the fact that they are able to use their degrees. I just realized I won’t be using mine like I thought I would. So I’m taking action accordingly under the radar.

A lot of people have told me I’m a hard worker at various jobs I’ve worked. I appreciate that. I’ve had some 9 to 5 type jobs. I love the experiences. While they were great, I knew then is not the type of work I wanted to be in my whole life. On the morning of 7/16/2014, I was listening in on a webinar, and this question was brought up: if you worked twice as hard at your job, would you get twice the income right away? Not really? If you asked for a higher salary that might get a higher income. And it might take years for you to reach your money goals. Another thing about working for someone else, they put a limit on how much you make, a salary cap. Can you make twice the income when you make it on your own? When you generate your own income, there is no limit. The idea of making income while sleeping excites me, so I’m learning all the things I don’t know to get to the level I want. If I want to earn more I’ll learn/self-educate myself more, and then apply it. I would love to be put in a position to pay it forward. I’m thankful I’m able to do that already in small doses. I want to continue in bigger doses. I’m doing this my own way and not how the world keeps telling me to.

I love my college friends, and I wouldn’t trade them in for the world. Most of them didn’t have to struggle like I did. (Thank goodness). I also pick up a little bit of resentment towards me because I’m not on the college bandwagon. If I actually liked my college, and posted constantly about me interviewing for a normal job would I get more support? Probably. If I was doing what everyone else was doing, would I get more Facebook likes? More in likely. How I approach “working” is different.

When you take the unbeaten path and you see things from a different perspective you have a tendency to be on your own. I grew up the only child, so it’s second nature. So I’m forging forward.To get what most people don’t have you have to do what most people wont. When you hang around people with success aka deep pockets, it changes the way you approach things. My mind has shifted quite a bit, and I’m asking myself what can I do to grow into the person that can achieve that level of success.

I have to agree with a friends quote:

“I love when I am hanging out with new people who are in college or went to college, and I tell them that I quit college. The way they react is so funny..because they feel the need to stress how “college isn’t for everyone,” and “quitting college doesn’t make you dumb,” and “I have a friend that quit college and is super successful regardless,” etc etc etc. And they say this to the point where it feels excessive. Seriously, I quit college..it isn’t that big of a deal. You don’t need to make me feel better. You don’t need to justify it to me. My decision was purely for me and no one else. And it is unnecessary to try to make me feel like your “equal.” Because despite our education, we still are.” (Thank you Alexandra Dale Taylor).

If you are smart without a degree you are going to be smart with it. It’s not so much the degree, it’s the person behind it. I also don’t think its cool going around saying “my major is better than yours.”
Not everyone is cut out for math or engineering. While I agree that there’s some majors that are
harder than others, you shouldn’t be made to feel less smart for taking up a liberal art. My double major is both in liberal arts and in technology, and I see the debate happen all the time. Just for the record, the times I do legit understand the material I’m bored out my mind. I have so many other things much more worthy of my time and attention. Not sorry that sounds bad.

(Sidestory.

If getting a degree is the biggest accomplishment of my life, that’s scary and sad. It’s just not that important to me. I’ve had some experiences that made me get to that point. I want to go through many highlights, milestones, and accomplishments. Not just one huge Big Bang then it goes downhill from there. I worry about some people that I’ve known that college was the “highlight” of their life. I admit I had an experience less than ideal, but I do love my friends I met. Life wouldn’t be the same. At the same time, my attitude is: the best is yet to come. When I leave, I’ll be ready to go, trust me. LA is really sexy and I want to be sun kissed by it. Life changes, sure. I miss not seeing the lovelys often. And if they need something, they know where to reach me. There is Facebook, Twitter, Skype, etc. I treat goodbyes as see you laters, and hang tight to memories and pictures until I see them again. Lovelys, also includes me liking your Facebook and Instagram photos.

You got the one thing that many people are on my tail about. “The degree.” So what’s up with you coming back on a regular basis trying to relive the glory of your college days all the time? Is the work world not what you thought it would be? I would love to be working my career full time. My line of work thrills me & training by itself excites me. (AUDITIONS AND STAGES ARE MY BABIES!) It’s time to move on. I guess what I’m trying to say is appreciate the past, but especially appreciate and love the now, the present. I would venture to say that the people who are “the college loving lets
go back and visit a lot” people are the folks who had a great college experience. I’ve known several people that had these killer college careers, and I check on them a few years later and I find out the tables have turned. Like I’ve known people who haven’t had it easy in college and end up having
awesome comeback stories. Be grateful if you have both an awesome college life and a great after college life. I guess it’s not something I’m not meant to understand. Like they don’t understand what having an awful experience is like. Speaking of that…

P.S. If anyone out there can crack a stubborn nut and convince me that a college degree is a dime piece, a valuable commodity, something actually worthy enough to hang on my wall, let me know. The burning ceremony might not take place. Hopefully my mom gets to it before I grab the matches. I’m very opened minded. I’m just someone who had a hard time. It’s hard to wrap my mind around everything. I don’t acknowledge it, Im into real world work as much as possible. You’ll notice if someone asks I’ll won’t answer. Not kidding. I’m toying with the idea of getting a degree or certificate from another institution so I don’t have to say anything about it. If you can convince me of reasons to like that college again, I’ll happily accept your words. Good luck. Not saying you can’t. I will say that I probably will make an appearance there if my friends ask me to, when I leave. I can’t wait until I leave. For the most part, I will do what I’m told when it comes to my friends. Maybe. This is one time they may not get their way. I doubt I’ll be a “I LOVE THIS PLACE” person like I once was. My first choice ended up being my worst choice. If my viewpoint on that changes, that would be a miracle. They say never say never, but me loving it like I once did is a long shot.

End of Sidestory.)

When you think differently, you pay a price. I’ve paid a price, because many people I reached out to don’t understand where I’m coming from, and that’s expected. I don’t mind paying a price and taking a trail that’s rarely traveled. My mom says when you are successful, and making money the other things
become secondary. Ok. Challenge accepted. I know “college dropout” just doesn’t have that same joyous ringing feeling and sense of accomplishment like of “college graduate”, it shows you didn’t finish what you start, for whatever reason, good reason or bad. Is it bad that I don’t care about that?

How do you explain that you are having/had a hard time in college and you don’t want to talk about it? Do you keep sticking around for a while to complete an impossible dream or go for dreams that shout out “I’m possible.” People asking is painful, like reopening wounds that you are trying to heal. No one downs Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg for dropping out. They had ideas that didn’t fit the norm, and acted on them. When you making millions of dollars, or hugely successful, no one is thinking about the humble journey it took to get there. Or if you did well in a college course or not. (Casting directors do not care about my GPA, what college I attended or anything else. What in the world would it look like if I started out my auditions explaining my GPA? I’ve managed to work my way into corporate type of work and they care more about my effort than what with my transcript looks like. When you get the chance, look at the movie “White House Down” with Channing Tatum. He didn’t get the security job at first bc he didn’t meet the GPA requirements-and I recall him trying to explain his circumstances? It’s been a while since I’ve seen that flick. Let me know if that’s different. But throughout the movie, he proved he was the best man for the job of protecting the president. It’s just a movie, but lower GPA doesn’t necessarily mean you’re not qualified.

(And by all means, get the 3.6 if you can. Salute & God Bless You. Appreciate your position. Do it for the people that can’t and struggle. For those of you find yourself at the rotten end of the stick. That tries hard and still earns a low GPA. Your time will come. Read this and then read Robert T. Kiyosaki’s book. THANK YOU ELITE DAILY http://elitedaily.com/news/world/students-run-world/)

“It is those with high natural intelligence — even when it is not reflected in grades — that will become the leaders of tomorrow. If you can muster a straight-A performance without putting forth much effort, you’re in the best position out of anyone. One must be capable of combining skills with powerful knowledge to ensure success. Remember, Elite; don’t be so hasty to judge your peers with lower grades — they might just be “lazy geniuses” with untapped potential.”

Thank you Mr. Kiyosaki! Read this regardless of what category you fall under. Why “A” Students 
Work for “C” Students and Why “B” Students Work for the Government: Rich Dad’s Guide to Financial Education for Parents. Robert T. Kiyosaki

Thank you Google for seeing the light. I admit the bottom of this makes a great point. Idk if I want to mention where I went though. When I apply for work or volunteering, I leave the college area blank. FYI. If I ignore or don’t acknowledge something, there is a reason for it. After all, my mom says if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all. Check out the link. http://www.businessinsider.com/google-hiring-non-graduates-2013-6

My time is coming. I feel it. I’m looking into somethings right now that I’m keeping to myself.)

We don’t down college ball players for leaving college jumping in the NBA to make millions of dollars do we. Would you rather take a 63 million salary or a humble starting job salary of 36,000+ with benefits. I’m not trying to down education completely but look where our priorities are as a society. It’s a reality, we tend to admire celebrities, entertainers more often than doctors, lawyers, and people in educated fields. If you are one of those people that look up to scientists, professors, veterans, and people that you know that actually makes an impact on your life, good for you.

With all this in the back of my mind, people want to down me because I’m questioning exactly why I spent so many years as a youngin thinking college is a fantasy dream world? They want to down me because I’m finding out I what they told me about college and what I’m finding out doesn’t add up? It’s not my ticket in the door or my meal ticket like everyone throughout my life told me it would be. Like with anything else, a degree doesn’t entitle you to a job or career, it’s something you have to work at. Very true, I do agree that it’s what you make it, but too many of the things that happened to me personally? Unacceptable. Perfect college student? Hell no. I’m sure there are several professors that wouldn’t write me recommendations even if the world depended on it (if I’m wrong on that, something is really off haha). Life time learner looking forward to years of self education, yes.

One of the biggest things I’ve learned early, degree or not. Do not rely on just one source of income. Ever. I know of people who have 10+ income streams. Sounds like a lot, but if something happens to a income stream (or 2), they will be ok. Fire me from a nine to fiver. I won’t think about it for long. Ok, maybe an hour.

The other day (7/22/2014) my aunt said she attended a Governor’s speech type thing. What she came back to tell me made me smile.

Not everyone is college material. You shouldn’t be looked down upon or seen as a social outcast because you find that a 4 year degree is something you don’t need or want. Some jobs don’t even require a 4 year degree, just a technical skill. Why get into all that student debt if you already know what you want to do? Then spend your life trying to pay those suckers off? I’m finding more and more the thing I majored in (technology! FYI) I won’t be using! Boo! I actually had the nerve to be crazy enough to double major! Breaking News Flash: The thing you majored in might not be the job field you end up in. That’s a kick to what people told me in grade school. But seriously like Pence said, instead of assuming that everyone wants to do the same thing and go to college, there should be an effort to figure out what the person wants to do during their senior year. One size doesn’t fit all.

That’s what I’ve been saying. Thank you Governor Pence. Thank you.

I hear too many stories of people being forced to go to college, end up being super unhappy because they did what their parents wanted them to do and what society wants them to do. I really have to give it up to people that go after they want in life, who have the courage to quit college to pursue their dreams. I love people who go against the mold. Stick to your guns!

So many people tell me I can be an actress, musician, and take college courses at the same time. It’s an balancing act. After trying it, they are crazy for telling me that and I’m naive to listen to their advice. It’s not doable to be on a 3 to 6 month music tour and attend college courses. Film schedules
in LA won’t accommodate a rigorous college schedule. No one cares about your career as much as you do. So I can’t and won’t worry about people saying eww, you’re an idiot because you don’t have a degree. You don’t know the circumstances. No one will care about the struggles I went through when success happens (they don’t care now either but I think you get the point). I believe in myself. I saw a quote once saying just because you struggle doesn’t mean your a failure; and it’s better to have tried and failed than to have never tried at all. Again, I can’t and won’t care if some peeps at the college level see me as a lost cause, failure, who are they? My happiness isn’t depended on their opinions. They are not the google search engine, they don’t know everything (neither do I). How do they know what I’m capable of? While it’s a tough fact to know that many of them don’t necessarily don’t back me, I believe in myself enough to shield that negatively out. I’ll remember these times so one of these days, I’ll have stories to tell to people especially if they think I had it easy. Again, no one doesn’t look at the obstacles and journey you took once you reach the top.

P.S. He’s a history major, do you really think he uses it that much as Governor? You tell me.

P.S. 2 Sometimes courage involves knowing that you held on too long and letting go. I’m currently looking at other options.

My question is, if you lost your job today (God forbid that happens) would you be able to maintain the lifestyle you are currently living? A college degree might give me credibility, take up space on my wall and make me look smarter, but it doesn’t guarantee me wealth. It doesn’t guarantee me a job, it just doesn’t.

I feel bad for people who are mislead (it happened to me too and I saw the light) into thinking that there’s only one set traditional path to success. They try to make you feel like a failure or you didn’t do something right along the way or how they did it. I welcome constructive criticism, but the one thing I won’t tolerate from that level is professors saying I suck or similar to that. (They sometimes use fancy words and don’t think I know what they are talking about.) That’s not helping me or helping the situation. I’ve learned to ignore comments like that (and make them think I care about what they
are saying even though I really don’t. Some people like to hear the sound of their own voice and knocking someone down makes them feel better about themselves. Knock yourselves out). It’s how they word it. If they said something like “this isn’t all that great but you should look into trying it from this perspective and try it again.” I would listen to it and embrace it. Don’t say insulting things and expect me to pay attention. Ultimately I remember to use it as fuel for my motivation. Check out my post “ Hate Is My Love. I Proposed, We Were Engaged. Now We Are Married

I will say this, that place is the reason why I met my beloved friends. I’ll repeat that in every one of these type of posts. Life would be nothing without them. Their successes throughout college makes me happy, because I had a hard time. I didn’t Thank you bros for giving me a chance, growing me as a leader and making me a better person. I didn’t have the chance to do the things you did, your reality was my fantasy. So I lived it vicariously through you. You make hard college times easier to deal with. You are the “good” from college and the reasons why I have great memories. You might be able to crack a stubborn nut. :D

I know I’m crazy and many of you probably won’t like this post that much because some of the things I say isn’t nice (you should hear the things that I didn’t write in this post). But I still love you. Thank you for loving me because many times I did not feel the love. Promise me that you won’t change on me. You will see what I’m talking about later. I have to grow into the person that can get to the next level. I want to share the success with you.

I hope to inspire people the same way many of you inspire me. I really admire you all and every time I have a chance to say it to say it to you personally I will. If something happens to me know the love will always remain.

Anyways. I hope you didn’t pull out no Kleenex over that.

I used to be a college loving degree loving person. If you read this and have a degree or close to getting one. GOOD. Just because I had a hard time doesn’t mean you will have a hard time. The biggest thing I resent? Way too many people put limits on me at the college level that I didn’t put on myself and that will be a topic for another blog. (Keep an eye out for “My head is not in the sand.”)

That is the child of this blog. “You have been cordially invited to my degree ceremony” and “Dear Biological Pops, Life Is Great “ has been dating and got busy. (They turned on Marvin Gaye’s “Let’s Get It On” and didn’t use protection.) This is also one of my triplets. I did not intend for it to be this way, I kept adding on to this and didn’t publish.

I’m curious, why do people ask when I graduate/graduated so much? Why does it matter? Is all my worth really based on getting a fancy piece of paper pointing to the fact I completed courses? If it’s not that important to me then why is it so important to you? Are they gonna do something special?
Am I not seeing something? I might not announce when I graduate, I might skip the ceremony. I worked 6 of them and oh geez. I got sick afterwards. I’ll be out working, doing what I love.

But if you put cute pictures of you graduating up, I’ll give it a like, or retweet. Your gowns are kinda cute.

Me and my mom made a bet. She claims I’ll use my degrees. I don’t think so. We’ll see what the future holds. To say I’ll like it again and I’ll use my degrees is a long shot.

Thank you for reading to the end of this! I know I wrote a lot and I’ve been working on this since 7/11/ with 7/23, 7/24, 7/29 (and adding updates after being a part of various conversations and reading articles). Let’s just say I spent the whole month of July working on this.

I just got a LinkedIn recently. I didn’t think I would get one. Want to connect? Alesha Peterson LinkedIn

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You all are probably thinking dang, she has more to write. Yep.

I’m posting this link again, (http://youngcons.com/university-asks-their-alumni-for-money-one-recent-graduate-responds-with-amazing-email/) but I really like the comments from that article. I won’t post them all but I esp underline the ones I like. Go check it out yourself and read the both the article and comments for yourself. Copy and paste started acting a little funky. Oh well.

Hans

“Whether you agree with vocabulary or condemnation of his education, I think many are missing the point. The government made it extremely easy for almost anyone to take out student loans, regardless of ability to repay. In response to this readily available stream of cash flow, many (most) higher learning institutions reacted my raising tuition at more than 4x the rate of inflation over the past 40 years. This is no different than corporate greed.

Rather than bring highly educated professionals into the workforce, this credit is instead leaving a trail of highly indebted students in a job market for which supply outweighs demand. I am not advocating that people who can’t afford an education not be able to get one. I am saying a combination of loaning to anyone regardless of ability to pay back, combined with greedy institutions is creating the next credit bubble burst. Much like lending to people who couldn’t really afford homes, there will come a point where this massive unpaid student loan debt will cripple the economy.

That is the point I am getting from this letter.”

3GirlzMum • 2 months ago

I kind of stopped reading it when all the swearing started. Obviously English was not his major. Public policy? That may have something to do with his unemployment status. I know, I’m blaming the victim. I understand where he is coming from, but I’ve never blamed the institution. I blamed myself for not being more strategic in my choice of major. Perhaps it’s time to take a couple of lowly jobs in order to build up that resume. Bet this guy is a hipster type.

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libh8er 3GirlzMum • 2 months ago
I totally agree. Instead of getting a useless liberal arts degree, I chose to get a degree in Engineering. I paid off my student loans in 8 months after graduating.

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DeadMessenger libh8er • 2 months ago

That’s exactly what I did, double major in engineering and math. I didn’t WANT to do either; I wanted to be an artist. But I also wanted food, so there you go. And I’ve been continuously employed since I graduated in 1984.
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Kevin Manrique DeadMessenger • 2 months ago

That’s nice, but not everyone is good at math or engineering. I hate math, anything past College Algebra is confusing for most people. With all the variables, formulas and steps to do a single question. And the old excuse of when do you ever use anything past basic math skills out of life, comes up every time and its true. If you are not in that related field, anything past high school math is useless.

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factsobill libh8er • 2 months ago
Where does it say he got a master’s in liberal arts? You haven’t the facts so you just act like what difference does that make . Try focusing on the topic and not your myopia!

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3GirlzMum factsobill • 2 months ago
Public policy is a part of liberal arts.
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John 3GirlzMum • 2 months ago
But he’s entitled to everything!!!! He went to college so he should get the best job ever!!
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factsobill 3GirlzMum • 2 months ago
So swearing even righteously so makes him fair game for assuming any catty thing you can dream up! You are a boring, sanctimonious, pipsqueak operating only on bias and no facts but for the ones you make up!
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3GirlzMum factsobill • 2 months ago
Swearing shows a lack of intelligence. And thank you for the compliments.
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DudeGuy 3GirlzMum • 2 months ago

Actually, quite the opposite

http://www.psychologytoday.com...
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followthedollars 3GirlzMum • 2 months ago
Why do we assume it’s a male? Just wondering.

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A few people here are missing the point. How polite would you be to the institution that sold you an overpriced/worthless degree after hyping up how much you NEED it, then hits you up for more money? Really, think of any time someone ripped you off, then tell me you’ll respond calmly when they came back to fleece you some more.

As the parent of two college age girls, I will tell you all that the manufactured urgency to receive a Bachelor’s Degree in anything/everything, and a Master’s Degree, too, now (which used to mean that you were qualified to teach the subject, not work in it), is very real and very intense. One of my daughters spent two semesters at college, hated it and decided to go to cosmetology school instead. (Actually, she wanted to leave after one semester, but her father twisted her arm to stay.) She’s so happy now, even though her coursework is so much heavier, and is excited for her graduation and license so she can start her career doing what she loves. Her father, though, continues insisting that she needs to go back to college for a Bachelor’s and Master’s before getting into the job market. Neither my daughter nor I can get through to him that the cosmetology license is worth just as much or more; people will always get their hair done and it’s a completely portable skill. So why does she need college right now? He can’t really explain, other than, “It’s always good to have.”

So if my 45 year old husband has bought into the hype, imagine our teens and young adults, targeted from their sophomore year in high school to believe that all good paying, worthwhile jobs come with college degrees. And if they can’t find a job, they must need more schooling. After all, it’s an “investment in your future that never goes bad,” right?

(I’ll find the name of this smart lady .)

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-Alesha

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