Are you okay?

It’s just me or is there anyone out there agree that “Are you okay?” is the most annoying and idiot question one ever ask to somebody whom was going through a hard time in their life.

I don’t know how to phrase it, and it’s not because I’m not grateful enough that I had some people in my life whom so concern about my well being, emotionally, and physically.

I just think, it isn’t the right question to ask, because you can simply tell whether they’re okay or not by the things that they’re going through.

They might be the strongest person you ever knew, but remember that they’re still human.
They have a heart. They can feel. They can get hurt. It just some of them choose not to show it.
No. They’re not okay even if they look like they do.
No. They’re not okay even if they said they are.
No. They’re not okay even if they did not say anything to you, and put a smile as an answer to your stupid question.

“Are you okay?”
Is a question you need to ask to somebody who looks like they’re having a bad day for no reason.
“Are you okay?”
Is a question you need to ask to somebody who got into a car accident to make sure are they really okay?
“Are you okay?”
Is a question you need to ask to somebody who had a freaking red nose but still going for work, not realizing that fever and flu can get worse if they ignore it.

No. It is not a question to ask, to somebody whom her / his heart was broken into pieces.
It is not a question to ask, when somebody is losing her / his loved on to heaven.
It is simply not the right question to ask when you actually knew the answer. You’re just opening their wound, the one that they’re trying to heal.

People have a difference method to grieve.
Some like to show it, throw a drama about it.
Some would like to pretend like nothing happened.
Some will accept it; let it go and moving on.
Some will struggle with it for the rest of their life.

Don’t ask some stupid questions, or even said something like “Be Strong”, or “Stay strong” those encouraging words are bullshit. Because even the strongest person need to grieve when they lose their loved one for good.
So just let them grieve.

Let them throw a drama.
Let them pretend like they’re okay.
Let them heal themselves.
Let them walk the path, find the peace within themselves, and just be there for them.

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