BZZZZZZZZZZ 100% wrong. For the first few years after my divorce, because I wasn’t making enough money on my own to afford a place for my children to live, they lived full time with their father and visited me at friend’s homes every few days.
And I had to pay just like any noncustodial parent. Which, though it probably added a year on to the time it would have taken me to secure a large enough dwelling for the kids and me, was money so that my children didn’t go without.
And my ex doesn’t pay support because now we have joint custody. So in my situation (and the situation of many people I know), the only person who had to “buy the kids”, as you so charmingly refer to it, was MOM.
You really need to stop thinking you know every damned thing on earth.
Additionally, it is 100% totally illegal for child support to be tied to visitation. You can’t be forbidden to see your children because you didn’t pay support. So if that’s happening to you, you need to address THAT, because it’s like the biggest custody rule there is.
I take offense to you accusing me of being dishonest; I have been anything but. Just because my experience has been pretty much the opposite of what you claim is absolute truth doesn’t mean I’m lying. You are pissed at biology. Neither I nor any other woman can help biology.