I’ll Have the Pie, Squared

My friend Kandy wrote this little article about the mathematics of being a woman, and I think it’s fucking brilliant and should be read by every woman everywhere.

She discusses the way us women are constantly whittling away at ourselves to make the rest of the world happy. Losing weight, lowering our voices, checking our emotions to make sure they don’t get too “big”.

And then she challenges all of us to start adding things back into our lives and to stop subtracting, at all.

I’ve been trying to follow her lead and it’s harder than it sounds. It seems that most people want women to fight for equality, just as long as we do it quietly, and refrain from causing a ruckus.

Shhhh…

I commented here on an article about learning to be assertive. I said that when I attempt to be assertive and stand up for myself, I’m met with extreme resistance. I was referring to asserting myself within my own family, and I stated as much. The response I received basically told me I was obviously being TOO assertive and that I should tone it down.

I promise you, I’m not being too assertive. If that’s even a thing.

I found it interesting that the author assumed that the problem was on my end. Because, it wasn’t.

I’ve just been passive for so fucking long — which is exactly where the men in my family want me to stay — that when I threaten to even slightly tip the status quo, it scares the shit out of them and they react violently.

Well, their roars have no power over me anymore.

I’m thinking it’s time to get loud.