This drills right to the heart of what I consider the biggest epidemic we have going- lack of empathy.
I so appreciate that you have tried to empathize with white Americans who just maybe don’t understand. From where I’m sitting it seems that apart from overt racists, and of course the quiet ones (and I don’t have any idea how to address those people since they are making a conscious decision to believe the way they do), what are left are people like the woman who commented just before you. People who maybe don’t have a problem in the world with the color of a person’s skin but who also don’t acknowledge that a problem exists that is bigger than they are, and take offense at people of color reacting to that bigger problem. Which in turn makes those people part of the problem. For me it boils down to lack of empathy. Being unwilling to even concede that the black community MIGHT JUST HAVE A LEGITIMATE POINT/S. In recovery we call it being willing to be willing to believe. Something you do if you just can’t quite accept something but you want badly enough to heal that you allow the fact that others have grown by accepting the point be enough to start you down that road.
Because shutting someone’s idea or experiences completely down halts all hope for growth or understanding.