Wow. This comment is about the best-stated explanation of grooming I’ve ever read. I look back at those who groomed me: my father; my ex-husband; and the worst of all, Jeff, and I remember the exact moment it hit me that they were something other than who they’d pretended to be all along.
I never trusted my dad, because his was never ending. But my ex, and Jeff, I had trusted implicitly. More than I’d ever trusted ANYONE (I don’t trust, as a rule). So humbling to find out everything- my whole reality-had been a lie.
Worst thing that had ever happened to me. Like the world had fallen out from under my feet and an abyss had rushed up to meet me.