Why do people take drugs even though it’s bad for them? As a kid, I always wondered.
It’s the drugs, stupid. They are the reason people are addicted. They’re evil. Most people would answer.
This conviction is the main reason why there is still a heavy war on drugs in many countries.
The root cause, however, doesn’t lie within the drugs. It can be found in painful past experiences. Experiences that usually date back to early infancy when we were most fragile and 100% dependent on our caretakers. Many times, they have to do with physical or mental abuse. …
When I tell people that I meditate daily I still get some confused looks. I am just a normal guy with an office job, doing a lot of sports and who seems to be extroverted, likes to go out, and is always down for some fun. Meditation doesn’t fit into the picture.
The looks become even stranger when I start talking about the subconscious mind and our inner child.
Has he gone nuts now?
Let’s face it. Meditating and imagining how you’re taking care of yourself as a child doesn’t seem very cool.
Life is growth. If we stop growing, technically and spiritually, we’re as good as dead. …
I have spent a couple of years trying to figure out how our mind works. How can we get it to be at peace? How can we be truly free and happy? What makes for a good life?
It all started a couple of years ago on a Saturday night:
8 pm. I reach my friend Patrick’s house. We used to hang out there before going out. I ring the doorbell. No answer. I ring again. No answer. I call him. No answer. Strange. We had agreed to meet at 8 o’clock.
After a few minutes of waiting the door opens. I look into the face of a ghost. A ghost that kind of looks like my friend. Pale. Messy hair. Red, swollen, teary eyes. …
A few years back, after my 36th misunderstanding that year, I decided to research the topic of effective communication. Quickly I realized that in order to master communication, I had to take a step back and start with understanding personality. In this article, I will share with you my most important insights.
First of all, what is personality? Many different definitions can be found. For this article I’ll go with the one of the Encyclopaedia Britannica, that defines a personality as follows:
“… a characteristic way of thinking, feeling, and behaving. …
Marcus Aurelius. Gaius Iulius Caesar. Benjamin Franklin. Abraham Lincoln. Micheal Jordan. Kris Carr. Oprah Winfrey.
What do these people have in common? They all have faced vast adversity. And yet, most people would describe them as highly successful. And these are just a few examples.
For quite some time I have been wondering about success:
Why is it, that for some people success seems to come in naturally?
How is it, that some people never seem to get thrown off balance?
What’s their secret sauce to turn whatever challenge they are faced with into growth?
Are they just naturally blessed and get lucky all the time? …
You’ve had a relaxing weekend. Now, it’s Sunday evening. It’s late. You’ve just finished watching a couple of YouTube videos on personal development and on setting up multiple income streams. And there it is: A surge of motivation. You’re thinking about Monday:
Tomorrow I’m gonna work out, start a new project at work, advance my side hustle, meditate, go grocery shopping, cook a healthy dinner, and prepare meals for the rest of the week!
24 hours later. Tomorrow is coming to an end. As you’re going to bed, you’re reflecting on your day. This is what you did: You went to the office. You had a couple of meetings, wrote a couple of emails, and drank a lot of coffee. You got take away dinner. You came home. There you encountered a comfortable couch. And Netflix. And all out of a sudden, it’s 11 pm. …
What does it mean to be a generalist? What do they do? Do they do things?
With my story, I will try to shed some light on the idea of “Generalism” and why it may not be that bad.
It’s this moment. I’m meeting my girlfriend’s parents for the first time. And there it is. The question I knew they would ask:
So Alex, what do you do for a living?
Well, I work as an IT consultant.
Cool. So what exactly do you do?
I can’t blame them for asking. In the past people have asked me:
IT? That’s awesome! So you help people when they have a problem with their computer? …
The feeling of happiness is just a mixture of neurotransmitters in your brain. YOUR brain. What if you can control your brain? What if you can always have that feeling? Physiologically that is, of course, possible.
The most important step in that direction is mastering the art of being alone.
If you can be happy by yourself, without any external distractions such as your phone or any other digital device, without books or newspapers, without anything. Then, you will always be fine.
You will not need to find happiness externally.
You will not need to define yourself with money, goods, or titles. …
I got to build my own business. To get that fancy new car and that condo overlooking the city. To do that trip to Bora Bora. At the same time, I must work my muscles to perfection, win that half-marathon on Hawaii, put on the newest fashion, and know everything about everything. And of course, I must show this to my 500.000 followers. When I get there, I’ll be happy.
If I don’t, I’ll just be another mediocre person entitled to mediocre friends, a mediocre life and halfway happiness.
It’s a lie. I got to do nothing. Except to accept that I’m not perfect. To accept those flaws that I have. To be honest to myself. To remember nobody is perfect, no matter how much they try to display that. To accept that nobody is ever gonna be perfect. …
A team is not a group of people that work together. A team is a group of people that trust each other. — Simon Sinek
I have been in toxic relationships. Mainly with romantic partners. But also, others. Family, friends, or at work. Most likely, you have, too. There are many symptoms of toxic relationships. Here, I just list a few of them. Probably some of them seem familiar to you when you’re around colleagues, friends or your partner: