Why Men and Women Can’t Be “Just Friends”–From a Single Man’s Perspective
We all have heard the time-old question: “why can’t men be friends with women?” “Why do friendships always escalate to one person (usually the man) expressing his love for the other (usually the woman)?” “Why is it all that men want is to get into their friend’s pants?”
I myself am curious about this question. I have experienced multiple friendships with women that I became attracted to. I inevitably gathered up the courage to ask, and they did not take it well. While I recovered from those setbacks and now-fractured friendships, I was surprised to learn just how much this kind of situation happens.
As I delved online to search up people’s answers, I was floored by how many women believe that it is all for men to find sex. As an asexual, I feel that it is necessary to explain that sex is not often the underlying reason why men fall for their friends. Quite frankly, it has to do with emotional intimacy, and the difference in the expectations of what is needed to accomplish that between the sexes.
First, I would like to introduce myself and my perspective of the matter. As a man, I desire someone to love. I can have all the money, fame, and glory I can get, but I would never be satisfied until I find someone who loves me as much as I love them. Society has foisted upon us…
