I look out into the world. There’s much to admire. And so much that can be improved.

In an attempt to help, I try to pinpoint the issues, the reasons for their existence, and who or what is the cause.

Despite my good intentions, I am falling into a trap.


An exploration of the dangers of seeking to overcome

Overcoming.

I hear the word and its synonyms often.

Getting over our fears. Winning the fight against the crisis. Overcoming our inner struggles.

Our culture is thick with such phrases and metaphors.

This all might seem natural and obvious enough.

But I wonder. What does it all mean? …


What type of conversation do you want your leadership to be?

In between, that’s where the magic happens.

Whether it’s a dialogue between two people or the interplay between the players of a sports team — greatness emerges from the interactions between the parts. The magic lies in the betweenness.

Whether we’re aware of it or not, we’re always giving and…


How to create the breathing room to think, feel, and do

No air means no life.

Yet so often we forget this basic fact.

We strip the air from our schedules like it’s the plague. We sprint instead of walking; we react rather than daring to reflect.

As we push forward in our perpetual panic, we miss where we are. We…


The pickle of progress for doers vs. leaders

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You’re entering into a new phase. You’ve performed well in the past, but now you’re stepping up to the next level. A new role is demanded of you, and it’s a different beast.

It’s time to become a leader.

But you’re stuck, and you can’t figure out why. You feel…


Use your assets, know your tools, and turn weaknesses into marketable strengths

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Last week, I spent three days in Columbia, Missouri, for the inaugural edition of Capital Camp, hosted by Patrick O’Shaughnessy and Brent Beshore.

One of the morning activities took place on a picturesque farm. Overlooking the rolling hills below, we learned the basics of butchery from the master Michael Sullivan.


Why reaching your goals won’t get you what you want

Goals can seem like a good idea. They allow us to focus our attention and channel our energy toward a common direction. They sound innocent enough.

But goals can quickly turn into destinations to get to. And in doing so, they become the conditions for our success.

While a goal-focused…


How to put yourself in the driver’s seat of your own adventure

Adventure has a nice ring to it. The thrills. The rush. The magic. It’s a prospect that tickles the senses.

But in daily life, it’s easy to feel deprived of adventure. Routine tasks, unappreciative bosses, and overcrowded schedules zap the thrill out of the daily grind.

This state of affairs…


Why the barrier to moving forward is the guilt of belonging

Few ad campaigns have been more successful than Apple’s ”Think Different” campaign in 1997. It featured snippets of the “crazy ones” — the Einsteins, the Edisons and Earharts of the world — set to a rousing soundtrack and an inspiring monologue.

“Here’s to the crazy ones….The ones who see things…


How to move forward by removing what’s in the way

Learning might seem like a simple equation.

You take your current level of knowledge. Then you add new knowledge. As a result, your level of knowledge rises. You have learned something new.

Current Knowledge + New Knowledge = Learning

This is how we usually think about learning and growth, at…

Alex Carabi

Executive coach. Coaching at www.alexcarabi.com. Leading group learning journeys at www.yellowlearning.org.

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