Comment : There is a war on sexuality.
This comment is not aimed at any individual, it is my comment on what is actually happening through language. I’m also aware that as a 45yo white heterosexual male I have lived a life of privilege and that I am yelling into an echo chamber. I don’t expect any responses or reactions.
I’ve watched the queering of the dominant culture through identity politics for long enough to not make my stance at this point in time very clear to anyone who I come into contact with. Know that I will respect any individual who wishes to have an honest discussion on this topic.
The following statement I’ve pretty much lifted verbatim from Magdalen Burns
Sexuality is not a ‘preference.’
I can understand why someone stating that they only like penises or vaginas or both might negatively effect trans people. Nobody likes to be rejected when making sexual advances. But part of an individual’s responsibility is to learn to cope with that without expressing hostility towards those who sexually rejected them.
It’s called being an adult.
Sexual orientation is not an implicit bias. Nor is it a preference. To imply that it is, is to suggest it is a kink. Reducing my sexuality as a while heterosexual man is of zero consequence, but when it happens to women (bisexual, homosexual or heterosexual) it erases their experience as women entirely.
For further clarification of this statement, my definitions are:
Sexuality = belong to the group of people that have sexual attraction for male/female/intersex/both genatalia
Female = human born with a vagina but not born with a penis
Woman = adult female born with a vagina but not with a penis
Male = human born with a penis
Man = adult male with a penis
Intersex = person born with both. In most cultures a decision is still made about gender at birth based on genital appearance. But the decision for that child to not be intersex is imposed at birth in most cases in this dominant culture.
Gender = system of power implemented through the patriarchal violation imperative (men on top, women on bottom). It is a real, tangible sorting system that we know occurs at every birth, the ‘rule’ within our dominant culture which divides us at birth based on the appearance of genitals (except in 1/2000 cases: this is the exception to the rule)
What is happening through the language of ‘identity politics’ is that if you claim your sexuality, you are labelled transphobic (usually transactivists whom are not always intersex people) and bigoted to those who wish to ‘identify’ their way into a material biological reality.
Being called bigoted when you are a white male means nothing. But when I see those labels thrown at the real victims of patriarchy (women) and laws are being rewritten to protect transgendered people whilst simultaneously ignoring women, then I know I need to be clear in my language use.
The very least I can do with my male privilege is use the language I speak to show solidarity for women.