Nobody should totally have their “shit together”. Having tight control of your life is liable to make you miss out on the spontaneous opportunities that life has to offer. Totally having your shit together is like thinking you’ve learnt all there is to know, self deluding…. and one should always continue to learn.
I’m 70 and I glory in not having my shit together because I learn new things every day and do not therefore stagnate. I believe it keeps me young thinking this way (self delusional or what!).