Phone Sex With My Wife

I have yet to board my Air Canada airplane from Vancouver to Buenos Aires and I already miss my Rosemary.

It was at her urging (and nagging) that I am going for two weeks to the city of my birth. I am looking forward to the warmth (lots of the outward kind) from my relatives and friends. Men after you have been introduced to them will kiss you on the cheek with no compunction when you say goodbye. I miss that sort of thing here with those cold-as-their-tap-water Vancouverians.

Perhaps this coldness is not only of this city but a Canadian trademark of a result perhaps of the serious Scottish background of early settlers.

As a Latin American I show passion for stuff and don’t keep it inside.I throw stuff and I get angry. And I have cried.

My Rosemary is not like that. She is shy, reserved and not known for hugging me in public (and rarely in private). And yet…

Here I am missing the warmth that is in her that after 48 years of marriage I know she has. My mother was similar to Rosemary. She used to say, “Love is not kissing and hugging. Love is doing.”

Rosemary worries about me. She may place a chocolate bar on my bedroom table or buy me some special juice I like. She is making sure I have clean clothes to pack and she urged me to buy new jeans now that my waist size has gone from 38 inches to 34. She has made sure I am taking all necessary pills. And best of all she inherited from my grandmother ( on a roundabout way?) her ability to pack a suitcase.

Rosemary has made sure I have spare storage cards for my Fuji X-E1 and reminded me to buy a second battery.

In short I am all set.

But I want to almost (but not that bashfully) reveal that on the phone, abroad or at home, my Rosemary oozes with warmth. Had someone invented something beyond virtual phone sex, by now we would have at least a dozen children.

I have not yet left but I am ready to come home and to hug my Rosemary and tell her how sorry I am that I will not be here for April 19thwhich happens to be her birthday.

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Originally published at blog.alexwaterhousehayward.com.