How to Criticize the Fat, Lazy, & Stupid
We are so fucking unique. Our differences are what kick ass about living — it adds excitement — a world full of different opinions, desires, and goals leads to one interesting life. It’s only a matter of time until we run into people that have different personalities than us.
You think we’d accept that as a blessing of this beautiful life— an illustration of how truly unique we really are, but nahhh. Instead, we see this as a gigantic opportunity to judge everyone for every little thing that they do differently than us.
They can be too selfish, too dumb, too slow, too ugly, too needy, too popular, too unpopular, too arrogant — literally they can be anything “too ________” that you yourself are not….
Why are we so quick to judge other people that are unlike us? What actual benefit does this provide us? Are we legitimately any better off by holding a negative viewpoint of another person?
You might be thinking: sure, there’s plenty of reasons to dislike someone.
And I’m thinking: sure, but that doesn’t mean we should dislike them.
Different shouldn’t automatically lead to criticism.
Before I start pointing fingers and condemning you for criticizing others without reason, I want you to know that I am just as, if not more, guilty of doing this. If anything, I’m writing to help myself and not to make you feel bad. Though if you’re like me, why not join me in ceasing the negative criticism?
Why not criticize positively?
We can continue to identify what we don’t like about a person and why we’re “better” than them in whatever regard, or we can start to accept them as who they are (because let’s face it, they’re not going to, and shouldn’t, change just for us) and take a positive look from the same standpoint.
What do I mean criticize positively?
I mean instead of condemning a “stupid”, “lazy”, or “arrogant” person for being that way, what can you conjure up that would highlight that person in a positive light? What makes that person unique — in a purely good way?
Catch yourself the next time you look down on someone for doing something that you would never in a million years do. Ask yourself why you care.
Why is it such a big deal that they’re different?
And more importantly, how could that trait actually be portrayed in a beneficial manner?
How can we be more positive with our thoughts?
That’s what this is all about — automating the positive over the negative in our daily lives. We ought to immediately recognize our immense differences as genuinely positive and good for our world.
So there: I challenge you to never negatively judge another person ever again. Give them the benefit of the doubt. Think positive. Create a world of unique abundance.
“When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.” — Wayne Dyer
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