The Civility Of Leaving People Be

It’s humorous how we can awe in appreciation at the cooperativeness of nature, but cringe at watching others live out the naturalness of themselves, even when it hurts no one.

History shows us that there are always parties who gallop in on high horses to uproot the “incorrectness” in others. Even if this alleged incorrectness is causing no harm, if it threatens the ideology they live by, they may apply force to eradicate it.

These people need every one to think like them to breathe easily. They feed on sameness. They can only relax when their beliefs are not subject to challenge. They are sometimes willing to impose force to sustain this distance from interrogation.

The thing is, if you don’t believe what they believe, that means you have threatened them with the ultimate thing they fear. The call to question themselves.

The more others don’t believe what they believe, the louder the self-doubt phone rings. If they dare to answer, they might hear a question that challenges their belief.

How would they then eat if they feed off your obedience and lack of questioning?

Most of them dare not answer the call. Your freedom of thought is their starvation.

We’ve all doubted ourselves before and yes, it sucks. The feeling of certainty is what we all long for as a social species. Certainty provides less worries.

Self-doubt just makes worries worse. What better way to shut up the doubts than to ignore them? Or better yet, get rid of all the people who encourage their existence?

Maybe if they figured out a way to just get rid of these people, or just get everyone to agree with them, they’d create a utopia.

They’ve tried.

“Is uniformity attainable? Millions of innocent men, women and children …. have been burnt, tortured, fined, imprisoned; yet we have not advanced an inch towards uniformity. What has been the effect of coercion? To make one half the world fools, and the other half hypocrites. To support roguery and error all over the earth.” -Thomas Jefferson

The beauty of being human is that we are different. We think differently, we want different things. It would be a shame if we all thought the same and had the same capabilities. Just like it would be a shame if the Earth was dosed with one type of tree, bird or mammal.

It’s even more of a shame when man attempts to create this unnatural autonomy.

Maybe the way to enjoy most the beauty of man is by observing his nature in awe as we do with the trees and birds of the wild.

Maybe instead of trying to step in, impose or “fix” him to be the way we think he should be according to our moral matrixes, we can appreciate how wide the diversity spreads within our species.

Maybe we can make evident our beliefs to even the most vulnerable access of sabotage and still have enough loyalty to them that we stand by them with honor.

Maybe instead of telling people what to do, we could leave them alone.

“It is grossly selfish to require of one’s neighbor that he should think in the same way, and hold the same opinions. Why should he? If he can think, he will probably think differently. If he cannot think, it is monstrous to require thought of any kind from him. A red rose is not selfish because it wants to be a red rose. It would be horribly selfish if it wanted all the other flowers in the garden to be both red and roses.” — Oscar Wilde