Words of Wisdom for the Ones Struggling with Friendship and Loneliness

al garner
al garner
Aug 8, 2017 · 2 min read

Some steps need to be taken alone. It’s the only way to really figure out where you need to go and who you need to be… -Anonymous

This saying fits in your case if you have been struggling with the sense of loneliness from past few days, weeks, or months. So, when you say that you are feeling lonely, it is only a temporarily feel of the moment which depresses you utmost. You have no friends to hang out with on the upcoming weekend, or you are sitting alone at the coffee house and watching the group of merry friends, you feel this epiphany that you have been bogged down by loneliness. Severe apologies to be blunt here but this is not a loneliness in true terms.

Loneliness: one cruel word that everybody today is afraid of but only the rarest of the actual meaning beneath the tag “lonely”. As experts define loneliness, it is the distressing experience that occurs when one’s social relationships are perceived to be less in quantity, and especially in quality, than desired.

Thence, as the social isolation deepens, the problem of loneliness becomes more precarious. What is the cause of loneliness? Why has loneliness become an indivisible part of our daily lives? The reasons for being lonely varies from person to person, but one thing remains consistent: search for a mate, companion, friend, or just an unknown person with whom you can pour out all the intoxicated feelings & emotions buried underneath your heart. Since we do not find any such person, the situation gets worse. I completely understand you might lack emotional support, lack warmth of friendship, you might see yourself as a saddened person weighting the burden of your existence.

But this is the right time when you have to put yourself up. If you have no single person besides you to nourish your homesick mind, you yourself must become one. If you need this combat of friendship and loneliness to end, you must quit the hunt for friends or companions, and focus on how to turn loneliness into a leading road to life’s success. Remember, most successful people felt overwhelmed with loneliness and depression, but they did not give up and sat like a disheartened in a dark corner; instead, they stood up with a blazing shine on their face and never looked down. And see, today they are the most successful, happy and satisfied people cherishing every moment in their lives.

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