Selfish to the Heart and Selfless to the Ego

Selfish to the Heart
- Valuing yourself (including being kind to yourself).
- Acknowledging your achievements.
- Speaking up when something or someone hurts you and saying it as it is.
- Being able to say to yourself “I love you”
- Falling in love with who you are.
Selfless to Ego
- When something or someone upsets you, validate how you are feeling by staying with the emotion as long as you can.
- Focus on not allowing reactive thoughts to proceed.
This allows the emotion to stay in its original form.
- Say to yourself how you are feeling.
- Acknowledge you are allowed to feel this way.
I.e. I am really hurt / mad / angry / disappointed in this moment and I am allowed to be hurt / mad / angry / disappointed in this moment.
- By saying how you feel, acknowledges and validates the emotions you are experiencing.
- By being allowed to feel this way, you will find that your ego will no longer want to feel this way and the emotions will start to subside.
- When emotions subside clarity for the situation has an opportunity to presents.
- By not being allowed to feel this way, can fuel the ego to become more reactive and block clarity from proceeding.
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