Selfish to the Heart and Selfless to the Ego

Alice Bacon
Jul 10, 2017 · 2 min read

Selfish to the Heart

- Valuing yourself (including being kind to yourself).

- Acknowledging your achievements.

- Speaking up when something or someone hurts you and saying it as it is.

- Being able to say to yourself “I love you”

- Falling in love with who you are.

Selfless to Ego

- When something or someone upsets you, validate how you are feeling by staying with the emotion as long as you can.

- Focus on not allowing reactive thoughts to proceed.

This allows the emotion to stay in its original form.

- Say to yourself how you are feeling.

- Acknowledge you are allowed to feel this way.

I.e. I am really hurt / mad / angry / disappointed in this moment and I am allowed to be hurt / mad / angry / disappointed in this moment.

- By saying how you feel, acknowledges and validates the emotions you are experiencing.

- By being allowed to feel this way, you will find that your ego will no longer want to feel this way and the emotions will start to subside.

- When emotions subside clarity for the situation has an opportunity to presents.

- By not being allowed to feel this way, can fuel the ego to become more reactive and block clarity from proceeding.


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