We don’t need a child to make the holiday season, or any season, meaningful — It’s the holidays and we’re out at parties, making small talk. I get nervous at some of these events as someone is getting to know me, mostly because I’m anxious about one question. It’s the dreaded question women of a certain age fear. I can always feel it about to…

And what does being 55 really look like? — At what age is a woman considered old? 40? 50? 80? And what is a “golden girl” anyway? Our idea of what makes a woman old is constantly changing. When I was a young child I considered over 40 old. …

My photographic memory is a blessing and a curse — Where is the nurse, and why isn’t she helping me? I was waiting at the nurse’s station for someone, but the desk remained empty. Apparently, I arrived during break time, but I needed to pick up an envelope. ASAP. The anxiety of being there was sending me into a panic…

It’s Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, but there’s still no awareness about a certain group. — When I was pregnant, my biggest fear at every ultrasound was that there would be no heartbeat. I didn’t know it could be worse. I didn’t know that what was worse was about to happen to me. This month should be different October 12, 2023, is the date I should be giving birth to my…

Vassar College has always lifted up women. Well, except their professors. — I’ve been a feminist my whole life. That’s why I was disappointed to learn that my alma mater, Vassar College, is being sued for gender pay gap. I went to Vassar College because I’m a feminist I was raised in a progressive household. …

Our society is obsessed with dogs. And we should be. — It was a tough week. I didn’t want to get out of bed. Instead, I stayed in bed, curled up next to him. He always knew when I needed a little extra love and let me spoon him, not even moving as I squeezed him and sobbed into his ear. …

Who knew Charlotte York Goldenblatt is the feminist voice we all needed? — “I’m a Carrie.” “I’m a Miranda.” “I’m sometimes Carrie and sometimes Samantha.” Any woman who has watched the iconic series Sex and the City has at one point or another compared herself to one of the four female leads. I’m guilty of doing it myself (and in case you’re wondering…

Aging is inevitable. So why is it so frowned upon? — “I love how you’re embracing your age,” one of my party guests said when she arrived. Huh? I didn’t know celebrating a birthday was “embracing my age.” Honestly, I was just using a milestone birthday as an excuse to throw a pool party. But I could read the subtext. She…

A lot of couples struggle with infertility. You’d be surprised how often it’s the sperm’s fault. — It wasn’t the news we wanted. The fertility clinic had called with results that were not promising for conception. But these weren’t my results. They were my husband’s. Men can be infertile I didn’t expect for his sperm to be the issue. Hardly anyone expects that. Women are constantly inundated with everything that could…