The Decision in No Decision
I have a hard time making decisions. It takes me forever to decide on anything and I need to ask for people’s opinions. It’s frustrating to say the least, not only to myself but to those around me as well. The thing is, I like to analyze everything before making a call. I like to have all the facts, look them over, take my time and then make a choice. Some may see it as being analytical or deliberative, but I see it as the inability to trust my instincts, my experience and knowledge. But if I decide not to make a decision, I’m still making a decision — the decision of inaction.
The decision of inaction is worse than making a bad decision. Taking no action and staying in your head doesn’t just keep us in one place, it actually moves us backwards from where we want to be. We’re not growing in any direction and standing still as the days move forward means we can’t help but move backwards.
“Today’s decisions are tomorrow’s realities. Life is a collection of the choices we make.”
It can be hard to make a decision especially if you’re unsure of yourself and want to please everyone. Every decision or choice seems monumental and insurmountable.
But there’s a freedom in making a decision:
It clears up our minds so we can focus on your next steps
I can go through all the facts, all the choices, every conversation over and over in my head, if I let myself. I want to bang my head on the kitchen table sometimes. But once you make a decision, whether it turns out to be a good or bad decision, frees up your mind. There’s no more “what about this and what about that”, just ok — now what? And we can move forward.
Making the calls gives us confidence
One decision will lead to the next and the next. With each decision made, we’ll develop confidence and courage so that the next decision can be made with more “oomph” and less “hmm” and “uhhh”. Decision making, like anything else, takes practice. The more often we make them, the more confident we will feel when making the next one. Every decision made is a lesson learned. We gain knowledge and experience, for better or worse, with every choice we make.
You will learn what you stand for
Making choices, whether the results are good or bad, will help you realize what kind of person you are and what you stand for. Every decision is based on our instincts, values, experiences, and knowledge, with or without us consciously knowing it. When a choice is made, it shows people what you’re fighting for. As Roy Disney once said, “It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.”
“How will you know if it’s the right decision if you never make it?”
We have to make decisions. Can’t be avoided. We make decisions about what to eat, wear, where and how we want to work, who we marry. We actually already know the road we want to take but something inside stalls us in making these decisions. The choices we make, big or small, can change our entire trajectory and more importantly makes us become more of who we are. We are actually given a choice — to decide whether we want to dictate our lives or let it be dictated, we don’t need to earn it, we just need to make it.
Originally published at possiblepursuits.com on July 5, 2017.