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Surrender. Release control. Allow life to flow through. Open up and receive.

Pretty obvious words for the mind, difficult practical lessons for the heart.

If it was up to the mind, all we would need is to say these pretty words above, and pat ourselves on the back… till life comes again with its vivid lessons, showing us painfully exactly where we are holding back.

Good thing life never ceases to bring us lessons, no matter where we are. But instead of jumping right in them, our controlling mind, with fear of losing its illusion of power tells us to…

Given that we are making the right questions, that is.

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The truth is, before we can be honest with someone else, we need to be honest with ourselves.

I know. Putting it like that, it sounds obvious. Yet, we step on self-awareness all the time. Society has taught us well to be nice fellows. On top of that, living constantly connected we have become so skilled in giving people prompt answers that we don’t even stop to assess what we truly want to say.

“Sure, I will go to your kid’s noisy party this Saturday afternoon. Not like I have anything better to do.”

The ability to see ourselves in…

Saying "no" as an act of self-care

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Picture this: you are a freelance designer desperate to make ends meet. Right now, you don’t have enough jobs to keep things rolling. You don’t like negotiating, as you are the kind of person who avoids conflicts at all costs.

Today, a potential client knocks on your door. She offers you a job that pays barely what other low-paying jobs you already have are paying you.

The thing is, you had already agreed with yourself to not even accept the low margin jobs that you are working on right now. …

When what is said is not actually said

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How much wisdom can a short text have? It’s a question that makes me speechless when it comes to the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali. Said to be compiled prior to 400 CE by the sage Patanjali in India, the sutras are a collection of 196 Sanskrit aphorisms on the theory and practice of yoga. A while ago, verse 33 of Chapter 1 was kind of haunting me: in any yoga studio I would go to, the teacher would open up the book and read it. It goes like this:

maitri karuna mudita upeksanam sukha duhkha punya apunya visayanam bhavanatah citta…

At times I feel like I am nothing. Five minutes later, I feel I am everything

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We love three-step formulas. Exercise, have a smoothie, be happy! Let’s face it, would you read an article titled “Live your dream life by doing these fifty activities every single day”?

We might have a taste for oversimplifying things, but if there’s one thing we are not, is simple.

The journey towards living happier, better lives always returns to the same starting point: identifying what is blocking us from expanding. Chances are what is holding us back is nothing but our mental models and beliefs of who we think we are.

Who Do We Think We Are?

The story goes that, at some point in our…

The mind-body dilemma in practice

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Have you tried to live on this planet without making a single choice for a whole day? I can’t think of any mission more impossible than that, given that even if we spend the day in bed, we have by default chosen to stay in bed.

When making a decision, it is easier to simply enquire “do I want this or not?,” or “should I do this or not?,” instead of “what am I feeling that is leading me to act like this?”

I might choose to sleep the whole day because I am exhausted after overworking myself for weeks…

Setting new year intentions in a different way

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It’s time to kiss 2020 goodbye.

I’m one of those who avoid New Year celebrations. I could never get all the fuzz around it. All the expectations and optimism that fade away the day after.

But I do love to wrap things up. The need for closure works almost like a ritual. The intention is to not have things pending and dragging for too long so that I can give my energy to what deserves it.

Yet, that hasn’t been very easy lately. Do you know the feeling of juggling ten balls but still having only two hands — and…

Expanding life through the mind

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At any given second, millions of things are happening. Pandemics, unemployment, abusive power structures. Scientific progress, sustainable innovations, and beautiful art.

The world (and the human mind) never stops. What is for dinner tonight, where we want to go next for holidays, what we are feeling on our pinky toes. And surely there are people dancing, children playing, and autumn leaves in all different colors.

Given we can't possibly keep track of everything, my question to you is,

What are you choosing?

At any given second, millions of things are happening

The role of the mind is to select a few of the millions of possible things that matter…

Detachment as an act of self-love

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Destroy, crash, and burn. Technology is disrupted, social conventions are updated, the environment collapses, and sickness spreads. We live surrounded by destruction, many of which are required for our progression. New life requires old life to die. More adaptable genetic mutations push old ones to go instinct.

Say bye to mom and dad, say hi to your child. Destruction invites renewal. Yet, the pain of separation is emotionally, physically, and psychologically draining. Even initiating a desired breakup brings us suffering. How I have hesitated to quit jobs that I didn't even like.

We lived in our mother’s womb for nine…

Binge-watching Netflix. Partying. Overeating. Oversleeping. When is enough, enough?

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My dad grew up super poor. He was 9 years old when he got his first pair of shoes. When I was a teenager, every time there was a storm he would leave work and rush back home to make sure the house was still there. No joke.

Given that my dad worked like hell to guarantee he and his children would have a rather good life, I can’t possibly conceive what he went through. He’s retired comfortably over a decade ago and got plenty of real estate properties making sure he could sit back and relax. …

Aline Müller

Creator, facilitator, healer, writer. Making room for a new world by dropping what no longer serves. Get a weekly reflection:

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