At least once, we all have this feeling that we are a BIG ZERO in life. Nothing more than average and more importantly, feel bad for ourselves. This is exactly what my friend said after he received a pay cut due to covid-19.
Rohit, I feel like I am a BIG ZERO with nothing.
This situation not only dented his confidence, it affected him so much that it got to him where it matters the most — The sub-conscious mind. He not only started feeling his heart pumping too fast, he was gasping for air and his head was spinning. Upon consultation with a medic, he was told that he’s perfectly fine (for which he runs daily and takes care of his diet). Then why would something like this happen to a perfectly healthy person with a great BMI.
The reason provided was that he took something to his heart so much that it has started affecting his sub-conscious. It was nothing more than anxiety of the unknown and an uncertain future. The medic was 100% convinced that it was nothing more than high stress levels which were affecting my friend physically.
I clearly remember our discussion where he declared himself as zilch and my initial response of not fretting about the current situation and look forward. After a while I realized, this is not something he’s saying just to project himself as a failure, it was deeper. His sub-conscious had taken control over his conscious self.
All is not gloomy and dark. During our discussion, I said one small sentence and it changed the mood for him. I said, a big zero is not a zero, a big zero is worth a lot. The only thing we need to realize is where we need to place our ZERO. Make your zero get placed behind something or someone. It will change the equation.
Maybe, in that moment he realized that everything that he was worrying about is temporary, everything that’s affecting him is not real and everything he’s so concerned about are small matters which can be dealt with differently and in a better way. He felt better and said, you know what, “I feel like I want to go out on my run again”. From sitting in a mall to a park where he ran his stress off was a drastic change in him.
Trust this.
You, me and everyone can be that positive force for someone in need. All we need to do is — — — —
1. Listen them speak their heart out. Sometime all it takes is to listen and calm the other person.
2. Use their words in a positive manner where they can relate to it. It Helps.
Next morning, I saw his whatsapp status. I am NOT a zero. I am myself and I am going to do my best out there. Since, this happened recently, I don’t know the change that he felt but I am sure of one thing that one small sentence during a conversation can change the perspective provided the other person is willing to hear the other person rather than just listening.
I am sure there are many like my friend who just need someone to talk to them. After all, we all need someone with closed ends to speak out. we all need to move away from the chaos of words in our mind and we all need that locker where we can keep our words safe. Thank You.
