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Celebrating Mother’s Day During a Pandemic

Aliya Thomas
May 6 · 3 min read
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Every year when Mother’s Day approaches, my siblings and I convene in a group text to negotiate how we are going to celebrate the day.

The younger mothers — myself (33), my sister (32), and my sisters-in-law, all try convince the others that attempting to gather in a crowded restaurant is not the move. Considering we all have little ones, ranging in 6 months to 5 years old, sitting in a restaurant packed to the brim with families is the last thing on our Mother’s Day wish list. Picking up crayons on the floor, cutting up chicken fingers into bite-sized chunks, changing diapers in a public restroom, and soothing tantrums does not a restful Mother’s Day make.

But we aren’t the only ones to consider. There are grandmas, nanas, and grannys that are also being celebrated on Mother’s Day, and of course, who also have a vote. So more often than not, we bribe our children to wear a cute dress or a snappy button-up, spend 20 minutes searching for parking, and make our way to the restaurant.

Of course, this year, that is not an option. Mother’s Day is on Sunday, and while things are slowly starting to reopen here during California’s second stage of Governor Newsom’s Coronavirus plan, dining-in at a restaurant will likely not be an option (at least through the end of the week). So with that off the table, along with gathering in large groups in public or private, celebrating moms this year will look very different for a lot of people. If you’re a mom, or if there is a mom in your household, I humbly provide you with my Mother’s Day plans for your consideration.

I consider myself to be a homebody — but look, it’s been weeks. I have two little ones full-time (while working from home), so I haven’t ventured out to a grocery store or my beloved Target since the stay-at-home order went into effect on March 19. However, the kids and I make a point to get out of the house every day for a short stroll or a bike ride around our house, and Mother’s Day will be no different. (We’re lucky enough to get some exercise without encountering others, but if weren’t, we would definitely wear our masks.)

On Sunday, I’m planning on setting up a water table for the kids in our backyard, and while they splash and play, I’ll be sipping on this ice-cold cocktail in the shade.

My husband likes to cook, especially on special occasions. Which means while he is going at it in the kitchen like a Top Chef contestant in an elimination round, I am left refereeing the kids and changing diaper explosions. Generally, I just go with it, but this year I am requesting that any prepared food be ordered from a local restaurant. It’s a win for me, because my relaxation is not interrupted, and the local restaurants that we love get the business they deserve. “Can I just cook a dessert?” he asks. Thanks, but no thanks. *sips cocktail*

The only alone time I have these days is the couple of hours at night after the kids are asleep and I do my nightly clean/disinfection of the house before passing out myself. Watching a show of my choosing while it’s still light out? Going for a walk by myself while listening to my favorite podcast? Going for a drive with the windows down and rapping explicit Drake lyrics? Nothing of the sort has happened since March 19. I intend to do all of the above and more on Mother’s Day. And something tells me my kids will enjoy the break as much as I plan to.


Whatever you and your family decide to do this Mother’s Day, I hope the day is enjoyed and cherished. Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms, those who want to be moms, those who have lost their mothers, and those who may not have children, but embody the role of mother for someone else.

Aliya Thomas

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