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Like me, and many of us in this time, you’re likely feeling a myriad of familiar and unsettling emotions…

I choose the word ‘familiar,’ as I do believe you’ve been here before. In different ways, to differing degrees. You know this feeling.

Here you are! Which means, you must have made it through — yippeee!

Yet, amidst the storm it feels like the most challenging and gritty time to be alive. We are indeed in some complex, ambiguous and uncertain circumstances.

A collective cocoon.

If I was to relate this to a rites of passage experience, a coming-of-age ritual or a self-initiation ceremony…

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You’ll probably feel this one and be able to relate, I imagine…

In the last month, in seeking ways to keep the clarity and grounding I cultivated over my New Years break, I’ve noticed the weight of guilt around taking time out.

Giving myself the ‘you’re totally worth it’ to even take 30 minutes out at night to read my book!

It’s also been very clear that when I do, the spaciousness of mind and openness of heart is remarkably shifted.

Why stillness is so necessary, in this time.

We’re here, swimming in a cultural narrative as thick as honey, that has us peg our worth against our…

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“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.”

- Soren Kierkegaard

Flipping from one Gregorian year to another is a great opportunity to pause, take stock, reflect and re-connect.

The more I delve into practices of self-reflection and self-inquiry, the more I find the timely power in them. In this time of distraction, fragmentation and information paralysis, finding our own unique ways of making-meaning and coming back to ourselves is increasingly important.

More than simply keeping a diary of what happens and when, self-reflection is a practice of delving deeper into our experiences, feelings, behaviours and…

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Sitting here, 35,000 feet in the air, gazing out the window across the ocean on my way to speak to 600 accountants (CPA’s) in Auckland, then Sydney, then Canberra and then Adelaide.

No matter how many talks I give, the trembles and nerves don’t seem to dwindle.

Our inquiry is into the role of community, vulnerability and emotional sensitivity in this Connection Economy. Why these very human capacities are so crucial in our work, and perhaps most importantly, in our life?

Part of me is sitting with the privilege and excitement of this opportunity, the other part doubting itself immensely.

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“The quest for wholeness — for congruence between one’s inner and outer life — never really ends. It’s not a place you get to. It’s really a matter of asking the right questions, wrapping your life around them and living into them.”

Parker J. Palmer

There’s only one question I need to ask myself when I notice myself feeling slightly off, out of sorts or disconnected: when was the last time I journaled or practice self-reflection?

What happens next is usually a naturally unfolding series of moments and realizations that bring me back to the insight or knowing I…

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“In Silence there is eloquence. Stop weaving and see how the pattern improves.”

Sitting opposite my therapist, gleaming at each other, the birds whistling outside as the setting sun shone through the leaves; my palms sweating, my heart throbbing.

I’d come for guidance. In a time of transition and feeling overwhelmed by the many changes taking place around me, I wanted at least him to tell me what to do. How relieving it would have been, to hear from someone else, what I thought I didn’t know just yet.

The answers weren’t given to me this time around…

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“If we do not transform our pain, we will most assuredly transmit it — usually to those closest to us: our family, and, invariably, the most vulnerable, our children”

— Fr. Richard Rohr

Diving deeper into my own inner-work — the work of reconnecting with the parts of myself that I’ve distanced myself from or protected myself against — I’ve come to realise how subtle, nuanced and insidious these patterns are. They show up in almost every way I relate to myself and others in the world around me.

What is unnamable and overwhelming is passed onto those we are closest to. Our loved ones carry what we cannot. We do the same.

What is clear to me, and after speaking to many, is…

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“Pretend I asked, now answer the question…”
Laurell K. Hamilton

This is how we tend to treat our needs, desires and relational exchanges.

Frankly, with a lot of guesswork and a great amount of expectation. There is something nice about someone knowing you so well that they can guess your needs without needing to tell them. Honestly, this sometimes-comforting thought tends to bite me in the butt more than not!

We know ourselves mostly by our thoughts, our inner-monologue.

Others know us mostly by our actions, what they can see of us.

To everyone else, we are mostly a mirror of themselves.

We have a responsibility, in our own lives and in our relationships to firstly know what we’re wanting, and then to communicate it.

This doesn’t mean we’ll get it…

“All truly great thoughts are conceived by walking” — Friedrich Nietzsche

There is a reason some of the greatest thinkers (who also happened to be great at marketing their thinking), had a habit of walking; either with themselves or with others.

Sitting down, inside, meeting after meeting, likely with a loose agenda but rarely a significant outcome — that tends to be a large majority of our working lives today.

We meet to share updates, discuss topics that feel slightly irrelevant to our core mission, and very rarely feel more connected with each other than we did beforehand. …

As I sit down to write this piece, I notice the quiet and powerful whisper in my mind attempting to pull me to the myriad of other things I ‘could’ or ’should’ be doing. I sit, notice and choose to continue with this piece.

It’s crazy. Maybe I’m on my yoga mat, maybe I’m sipping my Japanese tea; wherever I go, my mind seems to try nudging me elsewhere.

Why do we have this impulse to constantly be onto the ‘next,’ up to ‘more,’ or crafting the ‘better?’

Evolutionarily we had a strong limbic dominance, meaning we were wired for…

Al Jeffery

Exploring our inner-lives and lives together. Director @TheBaseBetween. Community designer, group facilitator, author & friend.

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