I created this account just to respond. I wanted to say

1. Thank you for (unintentionally) sharing something so personal and painful.
2. Thank you for not selling out the boy in the baseball pajamas.

I’m a cis-male former feminist that feels like there is no tribe to call my own any more. Over the last few years, I’ve kind of learned to accept that I don’t have any “my people”. But I can relate to a lot of what you write about wearing a boy-suit, even if that suit fits me a lot more comfortably than it does you.

I might not be able to relate- but I can definitely respect your thought process about transitioning. I admire your dedication to understanding your own identity on your own terms.

I really appreciated this piece, and hope that its’ inadvertent publication and popularity is a happy accident for you.