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Hullo Jason, thank you for writing.
Yes, this story is about me, as a woman who is ‘cis-passing with clothes off’. For people who are not cis-passing, for whatever reason, the calculus changes. In the case of someone who is cis-passing except for genitalia, we get the Crying Game trope; a.k.a. Every Cis Guy’s Worst Nightmare…
It is certainly true that happy and fulfilled solo lives are being lived, and you and others I know are examples. The studies mentioned describe a broad (statistical) trend, and you’re right, statistics say nothing about the experience of specific individuals, especially smart proactive individuals.
We’ve been courting long-distance (email, phone) for 10 months; we’ve been together for a couple weeks. I have no desire to keep secrets from him and look forward to getting past this phase. I like what Steve had to say too. Very affirmative.
Yes, my surname is a pseudonym. I keep a hermetic seal between my public and…