JC: Don’t know if this resonates for you, but I saw another transgender friend talking about how the Washington March threw trans people under the bus; have you written on your thoughts in re the March (and I just haven’t found them yet with my own stress having me not reading as much).
Hullo J, and thank you!
Like you I’ve found the state of politics generally, and particularly w.r.t. LGB and esp T, most distressing; on both sides of The Pond. Not having ‘the spoons’ to really take it all in, I’ve been coping by ignoring the whole thing as much as possible, just because I feel fairly helpless and it’s all so upsetting.
Beyond that, I generally** steer clear of ‘culture war’ topics for a couple reasons. One is my desire to avoid hate and conflict, esp within my own communities. I sit at so many (contested) intersections of gender, race, age, religion and politics that there’s almost nothing I can say about anything that wouldn’t upset someone I care deeply about. So there’s that.
Another is the simple fact that I don’t feel qualified to speak on most of these issues. I’ve been pretty privileged overall. I haven’t studied all that deeply in women’s issues, trans issues, race issues, &c, so it seems presumptuous for me to, for example, speak out on whether trans women were erased during recent activism.
(For that matter, I have read pieces arguing that WoC, disabled women, intersex women, and others were erased, and badly, so we’re certainly not alone in this.)
I do occasionally collaborate with others who are doing this work, but when I do I keep to the background.
And, if I’m truly honest, I’m frankly a coward when it comes to facing conflict and hate. It pains me greatly, so I avoid it when possible.
J, you’ve helped me think this through. Thank you. ❤
P.S. ‘I sit at so many (contested) intersections…’ Actually, y’know what? I *should* write about *that* — the minefield of minority intersections I have to navigate every time I write…
** There have been exceptions, for example this piece I did on the reasons we need the term ‘cis’.