So different to my experience.
30 years ago, where I was, we considered ourselves literally ‘former trans’ after surgery, and a woodworked, as-cis life was the overt goal. Over time I came to feel perfectly safe and ‘normal’ as a ‘cis woman’. For 2–1/2 decades I largely forgot I was ever trans.
This shifted abruptly just this past June, when I got clocked. I was suddenly, utterly undone by this. It was devastating.
Somewhat later, comparing notes with cis women, I learnt that this is now a thing that all tall women get. Thanks trans visibility.
Trans folks have different and sometimes interesting ways of approaching the pre/post situation. I have a friend who consistently refers to himself, rather curiously, to my ear, as ‘a man of trans experience’.