Now more than ever these relationships need to be handled with care
This week was pretty tough.
During a 1-on-1 with another co-worker, I was yelled at. She was frustrated and took the opportunity to unload that frustration by targeting me. I sat there internalizing what happened even after the call. It still doesn’t sit well days later.
The grace we needed in March of 2020 is still needed today. Outside my own nuclear family, the next consistent connection is with those at work. It matters how we treat one another. After nearly a year, there are ways we can continue to show kindness.
Ask how I’m doing.
After multiple months, I have become numb to…
In a really hard time, you have done your best.
Dear Me,
Catching up with a previous co-worker on LinkedIn today, her words caught you off guard. In conversation she said,
You are Wonder Woman if you can continue working, keep the kids at home, and still manage to do virtual learning with your son.
Wonder Woman? The truth is, you’ve never once felt like Wonder Woman this year. You haven’t even had a moment to think.
You are surviving. You’re doing what needs to be done for your children to be safe and feel loved.
If others are thinking it, why is it so strange to hear? Maybe it’s…
Marriage doesn’t mean the dating ends
My husband and I are going on 13 years of marriage this year. It’s hard to believe that much time has passed. I still remember the butterflies I felt when I saw him in the college cafeteria. He had my heart eating french toast sticks at Midnight Breakfast.
Marriage doesn’t mean the dating ends. If anything, it means digging deeper together. Continuing to get to know one another takes on another level with more talking, a mix of arguing, and knowing what’s worth the fight. It’s about prioritizing your time and being purposeful with your actions.
So what does dating…
The benefits have been surprising
My 5-year-old son is getting smarter trying to locate presents. Instead of hiding things in my closet for Christmas, I had to tuck them away in corners of the basement behind boxes this year.
One afternoon trying to locate new hiding spots, the game system was something I stumbled upon. I wasn’t supposed to find it. Truthfully, I can’t say I was overly happy when I saw what it was. It was obvious my husband had made the purchase.
Nintendo Switch was something my son saw on YouTube. It was all my husband and I heard about for months. My…
How I plan to uncork the wine and reminisce with my love
There may not be a dinner date planned this Valentine’s Day, but you bet it will be special for me and my guy.
It’s time to get creative and embrace the isolation so many of us are experiencing. COVID may have stolen the opportunity to feel safe for a romantic meal out, but it isn’t going to take away enjoying time with my love.
Our night in will begin with a glass of red wine and a trip down memory lane centered around our vacation abroad nearly 7 years ago.
2014 was honestly a great year for us.
After multiple…
A pandemic was good for us
Covid broke the cycle for my checklist mentality.
Reflecting, I am grateful for this disruption in life. I hate the loss the world has endured, but I would be lying to say I haven’t enjoyed less running.
In some ways, life got simpler by staying at home. Extended family holiday gatherings were skipped, and Corporate America was forced to work remotely.
Less focus outward forced us to focus inward.
We found a joint interest in hobbies as a family.
More time together has meant learning about one another’s hobbies because there is no other escape.
My husband and son are huge transformer fans. Yesterday, I was trying to remember the…
The one date that changed my romantic life forever.
It was 16 years ago, and we were in our early 20’s.
We were both resident advisors in the same building. It was the second semester of my senior year in college, and Valentine’s Day was a week or so out.
Our relationship was just starting. We had known one another for a while, but I had previously been involved with someone else. Throughout that roller coaster of a time in my life, James had always been a friend.
The two of us started talking more. We talked a lot. …
It’s not getting any easier
Ten months.
It has been ten months of trying to maintain my role as a digital marketer working from home while having a 5 and 3-year-old literally at my side.
I’ve learned a lot. I’ve also broken down a lot. I have questioned many times if this is something I can keep doing.
Reflecting on almost a year of this cycle there are certain realizations.
Moms are mentally tough as hell.
Working while mothering brings about a level of mental exhaustion like none other.
My son is doing remote learning at home for kindergarten. He has a list of 8 videos to watch, 2 classes to…
Signs that indicate maybe you’ve found the one.
If you are a fan of the Chilling Adventures of Sabrina series on Netflix, you most likely know the moment when Nick Scratch told Sabrina Spellman, We’re endgame.
For those familiar with the series, it was finally a moment we could witness two people in and out of love with one another come together. Despite all they had been through with their relationship, they ultimately belonged together.
Is an endgame relationship something that can exist in real life? Several signs may indicate you have found your endgame partner.
You have your best friend and lover in one.
When I first met my husband, I thought he was hot. His…
My kids pave the path for me every day
This has been a long year, but a good learning year nonetheless.
I feel a little closer to understanding the importance of slowing down to connect more. Some days are hectic, but working remotely with a 5 and 3-year-old showed me what I was missing with the collision of them and my profession in one room.
Parenting is tough. It’s much harder than any job with an email signature. This last year has forced me to change. If there is a silver lining to this pandemic disruption, it’s realizing how to love better by being present.
I have to evoke…
Allison Ditmer
digital marketer, mother and wife focusing on the joy in between
