Night time madness with Morrie
We put our values in the wrong things. It leads us to very disillusioned lives. We’ve got a form of brainwashing going on in our country. Do you know how they brainwash people? They repeat something over and over. And that’s what we do in this country. Owning things is good. More money is good. More property is good. More commercialism is good. More is good. More is good. We repeat it, and have it repeated to us over and over until nobody bothers to even think otherwise. The average person is so fogged up by all this, he has no perspective on what’s really important anymore. Wherever i have gone so far in this life, I’ve come across multiple humans wanting to gobble up something new. Gobble up a new car, Gobble up a new piece of property. Gobble up the latest new toy. And then they want to tell you about it. Look at what i got! You know how i interpret this? These people are so hungry for love that they were accepting substitutes. They are embracing material things and expecting a sort of hug back. But it doesn’t work. You cannot substitute material things for love or for gentleness or for tenderness or for a sense of comradeship. Money is not a substitute for tenderness and power is not a substitute for tenderness. Fill your home with communication, teaching, friendships, laughter, and tears. Fill it with meditation and yoga. Music and dancing.
There’s a big confusion in this country over what we want verse what we need. We don’t need that cookie dough ice cream, we need food. We have to be honest with ourselves. We don’t need the latest fashion or the newest car, we don’t need the biggest house. The truth is we don’t get satisfaction from those things. You know what really gives us satisfaction? Offering others what you have to give. And if you still haven’t caught on, it isn’t money. It’s your time. This is how you start to gain respect, by offering something that you have. Coming from the inside of that big, bright, beautiful mind you have. The best part is, you don’t need to have a big talent. There are lonely people in hospitals and shelters who only want companionship, and they are very grateful when you give them some. You play cards with a lonely old man and you find new respect for yourself, because you are needed.
Want a meaningful life? Devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.
The past 10 years of my life I’ve grown up in a higher class community. The past 6 i have been mostly surrounded by golfers, golfers with class and money and materials. Bigger toys, nicer house, exquisite wardrobe. I thought this was the life everyone lived because this was the main life i was exposed too. Then I went off to college with a scholarship in the Upper Peninsula where all these realizations came crashing into my mind. I became more exposed and something didn’t feel right. I felt empty, like i was missing out on something, like life. Because I lived along side rich athletes, I convinced myself that my needs were realistic, my greed inconsequential compared to theirs. One day, I just stopped caring. Caring about this showy hot shot lifestyle and began exploring my interests and doing what my body and mind actually craved. Nature, outdoors, healing the mind and body, lending my hand to others.
Status will get you nowhere. If you’re trying to show off for people at the top, forget it. They will only look down at you anyhow. And if you’re trying to show off for people at the bottom, forget it. They will only envy you. Only an open heart will allow you to float equally between everyone.
Giving to other people is what makes me feel alive. Not my car, not my clothes. Not what i look like in the mirror. When i give my time, when i can make someone smile after they were feeling sad, it’s as close to healthy and fulfilled as i could ever feel. Do the kinds of things that come from the heart. When you do, you won’t be dissatisfied, you won’t be envious, you won’t be longing for somebody else’s things. Contrarily, you will be overwhelmed with what comes back.