It falsely inflates your sense of self-righteousness and makes you feel unreasonably disappointed.

Struggling to find a job? You’re not alone.

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Image by【中文ID】愚木混株 【Instagram】cdd20 from Pixabay

Finding a job is tougher than it needs to be in this day and age. While part of it is that there are more educated people making their way into the workforce, the other part of it is what we do to ourselves psychologically.

Most people don’t work at top companies.

I know, it doesn’t seem like it. In fact, it might seem like everyone is being hired by a top tier company because all you see are these kinds of posts on your feed.

“So excited to announce that I’ll be joining <insert big 4 company> in <San Francisco, New York, Seattle, etc…> this year after I graduate making an absurdly large salary!” …

You shouldn’t have to choose another person’s happiness over your own — even if that makes you seem selfish.

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Photo by Alvin Balemesa on Unsplash

My parents always told me to be nice to everyone. I’m sure many of us have had that beaten into ourselves in our childhoods. My younger self took that as being friends with everyone, which meant keeping up the conversation and being there for them when they needed a shoulder to cry on.

I really took this to heart in elementary school and high school. My phone would blow up with texts on the daily, I would always be playing games or having lunch with different people, and I lived a very social life.

Unfortunately, this made me really exhausted and unhappy. …

Trying to find a balance between absenteeism and claustrophobia

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“Don’t you need some alone time?”

“Why would I? There’s no such thing as spending too much time with your partner.”

This is how my conversations sometimes go with my friends. I’m a strong believer that there definitely is a limit to how much time is a good amount of time to spend with someone, but some people aren’t.

Usually, the conversation goes into how once you’re married and living together, you’ll have to spend every day with them constantly existing in the same space. …


Allison Chow

Engineer-in-Training @ uWaterloo / Defender of the Summoner’s Rift / Navigating my Twenties

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