Your views are not naive at all. I think you’ve brought a very interesting perspective to the discussion. Especially the part about Chandler — “happiness is not a big office and a fat paycheck but pursuing your dreams”. A lot of people go through their careers thinking that’s what they’re “supposed to do”. And it’s hard to break the norm because of worries over what people may think. You need the support of your friends, your spouse, and everyone around you to give you the strength and courage to pursue a happier life you desire.