Hi Alexainie. The million dollar question, isn’t it?

It will take a lot to change, that’s for sure. Part of it has to do with men not wanting to give an inch on this because that would mean they may have been wrong about their assumptions around women and sex. Thus, the “my head hurts” type of refusals around stuff that is in no way difficult.

It will change when it reaches a critical mass of other men willing to challenge their male peers on it. It will change when sports and athletics seriously looks at the issue of entitlement and the cultural tower we put sports heros in. It will change when we begin to empower women to be sexually free human beings. And I don’t mean sleeping around, I mean owning a sexuality and sex life that is based on their desires alone, not the expectations of men. And it will change when we teach men that no one is by nature sexually available to them, unless that person extends the privilege to them specifically. In other words, promote new and healthy forms of masculinity since a lot of our traditional notions have ultimately been the cause of the problem. So yeah, we have a long way to go.

Though there is some traction happening in small isolated pockets. One example is Jackson Katts, a coach and pro-feminist man working with male youth. His TedTalk is below.