Thank you for the honesty and vulnerability it takes to discuss your doubts over the best way to raise a child. Sorry I am not responding until now, I had a busy afternoon. And while that’s true, if I am to be honest, your comments hit close to home and I think I needed a little while to sit with them.
Your story is so much like my mothers in that you had a similar background of being told never to question faith. Like her, you interrogated that when you were able and then made choices in the only way you could, from your own experience.
My son is two, so he doesn’t understand a lot yet, but I’m steeling myself for the day he asks me questions. I can only hope to answer them fairly, and in a way that doesn’t underscore the bias and negative opinions I’ve amassed from my own past within the Christian faith.
So you throw in some sarcasm around biblical stories? Big deal. If you feel you need to practice a small amount of restraint, do so. Otherwise, please realize what you are offering your son is the example of a mother deciding for herself what she does and doesn’t accept in a religious or religious narrative sense. Kids are forever being exposed to our default cultural beliefs, often without competing narrative. Teaching a child the ability to reason for themselves, as well as instilling the confidence required to act on unpopular options, is in my estimation, one of the greatest things a parent can do.
Thanks for commenting.