




Heartbreak.
It doesn’t matter if the person that you were with was the biggest jerk or not.
It still hurts like shit. You question every aspect of your existence. Your favorite songs, dress, places... because they are all tinted by the essence of the person you loved.The world after the heartbreak is a living hell. You have to get going with your life with the invisible injury in your chest, which doesn’t have any prescription for the cure.
Except, your broken-heart does heal eventually like any other injuries; only if you let yourself feel and live through it.
There are 9 stages that you have to undergo in heartbreak. Yup, it is a long way to go. But you can make it.
[Stage1: "What the shit?"]
You might feel confusion than anything else in the beginning; just like when you fall to the ground, you don’t feel the pain immediately. It is the self defense for the upcoming emotion. So, don’t worry if you can’t grasp the whole picture yet; it is natural.
[Stage2: Denial]
At this stage, you will do everything to deny the fact that it is over. You might contact your ex time to time; only to find out that what has been broken cannot be fixed. But you still keep on trying anyway, hoping that things would change the next time.
[Stage3: Panic]
You cannot help but see the reality that it is over, because the things you used to do start not to make sense to your present anymore.
[Stage4: Anger]
The raging phase. The symptoms include; feeling the urge to text your ex about all the wrongdoings that they did, giving a dirty look to an adorable couple, the agony towards ever existing men. Also, known as the phase of "gossip about the weird things that he did". Do that. Bring on your champaign.
[Stage5: Guilt]
You might start blaming yourself. But remember, the fact is that you guys both failed to make things work. The best thing you can do is to take it as a lesson for your life. Still feel guilty? Write a letter.Then, tear it off. You’re not perfect, and that’s ok. *
[Stage6: FalseHope]
The stage of "I’m so better off with myself!". You might go out more, post the picture of your cleavage on insta, try new things... secretly hoping that your ex would turn their head. You might also daydream about your past relationship at this stage. I recomend you to talk to your friends about all the hope that you have for your ex though, because your friends would probably shatter your dreams.
Trust me. It’s brutal but healthy.
[Stage7: Depression]
The void in your heart. By this time you would finally realize that your ex wouldn’t ever come back to your life. Ever. And that shit hurts, a lot.
You feel like you will never find love again, but that’s not true. I mean, look at the mirror. Who are you talking to, right?
Things to do: listen to sad music and cry , watch very deppressing movie and feel lucky about yourself, put on your best outfit once in a while to remind yourself who you really are.
[Stage8: Acceptance]
You start to see the whole picture of the event; the good and the bad. You will become ok with the fact that you will lead your own life, and your ex will lead theirs.
You might still feel the moment of melancoly time to time- that’s normal.
But once you are here, you are almost out. Well done.
Also, you want to stop checking on his SNS once you reached this stage. It’ll drag you down from moving forward.
[Stage9: Growth]
Finally, a breath of fresh air. Congratulations.
You will find how necessary the experience was to your growth. You will undersrand deeper about yourself, the life, and feel motivated to become a better self.
Work on it buddy. The new chapter has begun.
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Remember; distracting yourself can only prolong the process, because the emotion that you suppress would keep on coming back to you if you did not recognize the exsistent of it.
So, live it- cry, shout, laugh histerically, do everything you need to do to feel yourself again.
Your healing should be prioritized . ...In the end, heartbreak is not all that bad.
(Fun fact, the process of heart break is the same as the process of facing death)
