Do it by yourself
How the world press us to do all with someone else.
The other day I was talking with some friends about some movie that I just saw when, I don’t know why, someone asked me who was with me at the movies (as if that was important to the story of the movie).
I was alone, I said.
You don’t have an idea of all the looks and comments that I received. It was pretty akward. Everybody telling me I should invite someone ‘cause is pretty sad going to the movies by yourself!
Do you know what the intention of the movie theater is? It is watch and enjoy a movie. For 2 and a half hours you are not going to talk with anyone. So, why do you need company? Just to feel good? If you really want to see a movie and there is no one able to go with you, should you not go? I think that’s bullshit!
I believe all this comments and faces from my friends, as small and insignificant they may seem, are only the consequence of a bigger problem.
Do you remember that movie where Leonardo Dicaprio did won an Oscar? LOL, ok, I’m really upset with the academy for that but we can talk about that later.
Anyway, that Leo’s movie where he gets into people’s dreams and he put some ideas on their heads? He inserted so deeply those ideas on peoples’s minds that they actually believe all those ideas and they believed were theirs (the movie title is Inception and it’s one of my favorites).
Well, that is our problem. Someone hired Leonardo and he put the idea of always be accompanied to do millions of things. If you do it by yourself is sad, bad and you are going to burn in hell. Go to the movies is just one of them. A single girl at her 30's? OMG! That’s a sin!!! (another good topic).
A couple of years ago, when I was younger (25, now I’m almost 30), I used to go to this mall with my collegues from my work and every single time that I saw someone eating alone I thought — that is so sad! How can anybody eat alone? Maybe he/she doesn’t have friends or maybe… a lot of things was on my mind. I stopped asking that question the day I had to do it by myself for the first time and you know what? I just love it! Eating alone is one of the most relaxing things ever! You have the all the time in the world to enjoy what you are doing, to think about all those things you want to do or the things you did, to wander, to create or detailing everything you wanted, for example, write. You don’t need someone to do it, at least you’re sick and you need help but… And don’t take this to the wrong way, it is great to be with someone and to have someone to share your favorite things.
Is it perhaps that we so afraid of being with ourselves loneliness terrifies us? Maybe we are our own enemy and we do not want to confront us. Again, I’m not fighting with the company but I do not understand the need to disparage time with yourself.
If you think about it you will find it amazing the number of things you stop doing just because you dont have someone to do it. What about do it by yourself?
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