Big Question: Why do you hate the sound of your voice?

Alyssa Contreras
3 min readFeb 14, 2017

You can’t possibly sound like that grating voice on the answering machine, right?

The expert: Dr. William Cullinan, dean of the College of Health Sciences and director of the Integrative Neuroscience Research Center

“The answer has to with the sensory apparatus for hearing within the middle and inner ear (i.e. deep in the skull). When we hear, a series of events occurs (sort of like a Rube Goldberg machine, except that it isn’t over-engineered) whereby sound waves (really pressure waves) are transduced or transformed into an electric signal sent to the brain and interpreted as hearing. When you ‘hear’ my voice, the sound/pressure waves leaving my mouth enter your ear, and the process of events happens in series. When you ‘hear’ your own voice, however, not only do the sound/pressure waves leaving your own mouth (call this the external stimulus) reach your ear and activate this series of events, but a second thing happens. The physical act of producing speech, which involves contraction of the muscles of the larynx (and others), creates a vibration that is translated through the neck to the skull where the entire auditory transduction apparatus is. This delivers a second (internal) stimulus to the apparatus. The combination of the two stimuli is what you perceive as the sound of your own voice. But you are the only person who hears it this way because you are the only one who can produce both stimuli. Everyone else receives only the external stimulus.

“Now when you hear a recording of your own voice, you are essentially hearing the external stimulus only. People typically attribute the difference in sound to a poor quality recording, even with digital recording equipment. It is deep denial, indeed! We hate it because it is so foreign. You’ve certainly never heard yourself that way normally — and for good reason — you can’t avoid producing both internal and external stimuli prior to hearing your own voice. The irony is you are the only person who ‘hears’ yourself in the way you think everyone else does.”

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Comments from Original Post

Comment by eimaerc at Jul 13 2014 01:35 am

I don’t thinkthe reason that I hate my own voice is that it’s foreign.

If that were the case, I’d hate the voice of every stranger and everyone I meet.

Comment by nevadajerdan at Jul 18 2014 11:17 pm

I don’t thing that’s what it means. The article means that it’s foreign compared to what your own body hears it’s disconcerting to expect to hear one thing, and hear another, there for the thing you actually hear is foreign to you. I know I hate my own voice, and being a singer, I try to avoid listening to recordings of it because it lowers my confidence. Anyway, I hope what I’m hearing is different than what others hear, otherwise everyone has been lying to me and I actually can’t sing at all.

Comment by briannero at Oct 20 2014 12:40 pm

I think this article has a valid point. However, it does not account for the fact that I (and other people whom I’ve spoken about it”( also hate my voice when I don’t expect to hear it and don’t even recognize it immediately.

So I believe it can’t solely be caused by what the article suggests.

Comment by lola selby at Feb 19 2015 07:00 pm

i just hate my voice!! its sooo high pitched, and thats the reason why people call me “ little missy”, or a “girly girl”!!!
whenever i make a video or something, my voice always sound soo dull!! its the total opposite! super high-pitched, and super low-pitched :(