Alyssa Swanson Hamilton
Nov 1 · 1 min read

As the woman married to the cheater in a VERY similar scenario (but worse), this was a welcome and powerful perspective. It took me years of therapy to not hate the other woman. I’m still working though it. Like you, she broke up a family (not alone, I recognize), she got pregnant when he wouldn’t leave me, and it went on and on from there. All while we were still together and I thought we were working on our marriage. She got pregnant again after I moved out and he moved her into the home we shared as he could not afford multiple households. Why do we women think we deserve so little? It breaks my heart. Know that the ex wife continues to suffer too. It’s so painful for everyone involved. We are not required to forgive those who hurt us, but we must forgive ourselves. I have yet to speak to my personal “other woman,” who maintains she did nothing wrong. I wish she had some of your self reflection. I admire your candor and I wish peace for you.