What are you really asking for..?
It has happened to a whole bunch of us. We look at someone with more money in the bank than us, with more followers on social media, with more book deals, with more votes in an election, with a better physique, with a supportive family, with a trusting circle of friends, with a better dating life.. And we think to ourselves — I wouldn’t mind being that person!
Alas, only if it were that easy.
A lot of those people with whom we want to trade places, did not get there overnight. When we ask for or wish trading places with them, we want the place they’re at right now. We do not want to be them training hard, working their asses off to gain a skill, for the past 10-15–20 years. We don’t want to go through what they have done to get to this point. We want to be them today, like a simple replacement.
It’s not even a simple wishful thinking. I think a lot of us have come to not appreciate the process that goes into building anything meaningful, anything grand, anything that lasts, and that makes a difference. We want the end goal achieved, but we don’t want to put in the daily work to make it happen. Deep down, we are lazy.
We simply have to put in the work.