Moomin Mama
Sep 6, 2018 · 2 min read

Great article and video, it helps me to see just what was done to me. He was very clever with words and impossible to trip up. The exhaustion thing, yup, I experienced that too, he was a master of his art that’s for sure. In the end your end up so tired and so confused, not knowing which way is up that you just give up, until the next time and there’s always a next time.

One time he told me he was going abroad to visit his daughter, nothing unusual about that. I then found out that he was on the other side of the planet! When he returned and I confronted him about it, initially he was cold and hard, acting as though me being upset was my fault. He said he’d not told me where he was going as he didn’t want to upset me, and now he felt abused by me for reacting angrily at being lied to. When things calmed down he then said that he hadn’t lied, that he’d flown out to the country his daughter lived in so they could then travel on to their destination together, and so because he’d initially gone to where he said he was going he wasn’t actually lying! But even this was a lie, his daughter had flown to the uk and they commenced their journey together from here. This man was totally incapable of uttering a single truth.

You could catch his lies out without a shadow of a doubt and he would still try to manipulate things by a clever use of language or he would just totally ignore you, give you the silent treatment and then message you a day or so later with something totally unrelated, a news item or a joke or a reaction to something he’d heard on the radio. It would be as if the lie that had upset me had never even happened, if he refused to acknowledge it then it wasn’t real, change the subject and jolly me along.

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