May 5, 2020Perspective In A Pandemic: Everyone Needs Compassion Right Now… even people who disagree with youNo matter who you are or what you are going through right now, I just want to acknowledge this isn’t easy. “We’re all in this together.” Is a simple thing to say… and it’s true — ish, but also… it’s not. Some people have it harder than others. I don’t…Coronavirus6 min read
Feb 6, 2020Hard AnniversariesThere’s a good chance that if you are reading this you’ve lost someone you love. I’m really, truly sorry. This is the hardest thing about love. The more you love someone, the more deeply painful their loss is. This is also the most beautiful part of grief: that pain is…Grief4 min read
Nov 15, 2019Your Generational “Hot Take” War is TIREDI’ve been trying to understand why these “Ok, Boomer” “Gen X are all Karens” “Entitled Millennials could own houses if not for avocado toast ” think pieces get under my skin so badly… It’s not wrong to want better from people older AND younger than you… but these takes are…Millennials4 min read
Nov 6, 201910 TIPS FOR TROLLING YOUR TRUMP SUPPORTING RELATIVES THIS THANKSGIVING -2019 EditionThis is my third year writing this list so, if you’d like to follow along in our progressively terrible timeline, here are links for 2018 and 2017 . Look, anyone STILL supporting Trump at this point is not a person that is healthy to be around. They may say they…Trump4 min read
Jun 23, 2019To The Good Person Who Is Defending The Current Policies At Our BorderI want you to know this is not coming from a stranger. I know you. I grew up with you. You care deeply about your family and your church. You want to make sure that this nation stays safe for your own family and children. That’s what this is all…Immigration7 min read
Jun 20, 2019Tomboys & Tiaras: Why I Don’t Want My Daughter To Hate PinkI originally wrote this for XOJane in 2015… XO Jane is now gone and so is the link so I am reposting here. “Good thing you put a bow on her head, so we know she’s a girl.” A good friend sent me this text as a joke after seeing…Feminism4 min read
Apr 1, 201910 April Fools Pranks You Can Do With KINDNESSIn general, I hate April Fools. I enjoy the clever, creative marketing things done by smart, corporate ad firms, but that’s about it. It’s always the same thing: 50 Facebook friends pull the same “hilarious” pregnancy stunt and then everyone else is just a straight up jerk. What exactly do…Humor4 min read
Mar 26, 2019Jagged Little Pill Is Actually Very Good.(I didn’t want to link, but for clarity this article is a response to this mess: https://themuse.jezebel.com/jagged-little-pill-is-actually-very-bad-1833542975) Since apparently in the Lord’s year 2019, women are starting opinion articles with opening lines about their husband’s opinions… I will start by invoking my wife. You see, she also has an EPIC…Music5 min read
Nov 1, 201810 TIPS FOR TROLLING YOUR TRUMP SUPPORTING RELATIVES THIS THANKSGIVING- 2018 EditionI wrote one of these last year and it still stands, but let’s be real, this is Trump’s America and that means things have gotten decidedly worse, so here is your update!! Per usual, I am going to start with a disclaimer: Prioritize self care. Stand your ground, but only…Thanksgiving4 min read
Oct 31, 2018I Did Not Die Today- Outliving The Age Of A Deceased ParentI did not die this morning. I didn’t really expect to, not with the logical part of me, but if there is one thing a lifetime of grief has taught me it’s that the logical part of ourselves is not always the loudest part of ourselves. There has been an…Death4 min read