How to be nicer to yourself — Part 1
Have you ever considered that the failure wasn’t yours?
We have all heard that failure is a good thing. It’s a part of life. It’s how we learn, it’s how we grow. And it’s true. We should learn to accept failure, to practice picking ourselves back up and trying again. Taking responsibility for our failures actually feels better, because it means we can do something about it. We failed, so we can change our course and eventually succeed.
It means we’re in control.
But, it can be hard to see it that way all the time. In the moment it sucks, and it feels shitty and often times we’re way too hard on ourselves for it.
So, if everyone is failing all the time and failures are happening everywhere, consider this: maybe it wasn’t your failure.
It’s a bittersweet outlook, but it’s one way to be a bit kinder to yourself.
You didn’t get hired for the job. Maybe you were the perfect fit, but the hiring manager failed to see that for whatever reason.
You put yourself out there with a friend or a loved one, and they didn’t respond how you wanted them to. Maybe they failed to be a good friend in that moment.
Don’t take this as if I’m saying it’s never your fault. Because regardless of who’s failure it is, you are still only in control of the next action you take.
I’m not saying change how you react to failure. I’m just saying maybe be a little kinder to yourself every now and then, and consider that just maybe, the failure wasn’t yours.